My husband was a virgin when we met. We have a small issue now (kiss, like)
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Another stupid wife who threw her husband under the bus.
You disclosed his past secrets, woman. Things he confided in you. Do you even have any ounce of remorse? Who does this kind of stuff.
This is it, OP. He trusted you to be discreet and to have the sense to keep intimate things private. You failed him. Learn from this experience.
And btw, it's not a "small issue". Trust and confidentiality in a marriage are crucial, they're a relationship cornerstone. Your talk tonight should begin with you saying, "Honey, I've thought a lot about this, and I realize now that I screwed up." Take responsibility for the mistake. Do NOT say, "I didn't realize you were so sensitive about being a virgin." That's deflecting the blame toward him. That will not heal the rift, it won't address his sense of betrayal. To fix this, some humility on your part is called for.
Since the poster of this thread sounds very young to me , I wont toss her her under the bus... ...This one of them times where you apologies to your partner, leave it at that......
Of course my intent was NOT to embarrass him. Like I said I'm proud of him and shared that POSITIVE aspect. I didn't see it as a negative. And as a matter of fact we actually have joked around about how I have taught him "stuff."
Ok so you were his first, did you NOT take his masculinity into account before you opened your mouth?? Sorry but I have to agree with your hubby, you NEED to learn a little discretion around other people when such matters come up.
this is it, op. He trusted you to be discreet and to have the sense to keep intimate things private. You failed him. Learn from this experience.
And btw, it's not a "small issue". Trust and confidentiality in a marriage are crucial, they're a relationship cornerstone. Your talk tonight should begin with you saying, "honey, i've thought a lot about this, and i realize now that i screwed up." take responsibility for the mistake. Do not say, "i didn't realize you were so sensitive about being a virgin." that's deflecting the blame toward him. That will not heal the rift, it won't address his sense of betrayal. To fix this, some humility on your part is called for.
Of course my intent was NOT to embarrass him. Like I said I'm proud of him and shared that POSITIVE aspect. I didn't see it as a negative. And as a matter of fact we actually have joked around about how I have taught him "stuff."
It's not about how you felt about sharing his inexperience, it's about how HE felt about your sharing his inexperience. If you haven't already done so, apologize (because you own him one), and explain that you really did not mean to embarrass him. Your being 'proud' of his having been inexperienced does not make it something he wants you to share with others. Leave that to him to share, or not share. It's not for YOU to share with others. Respect his feelings about what you did and make sure you don't do it again.
Now go have some serious make-up sex!
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...This one of them times where you apologies to your partner, leave it at that......
