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I find our culture regarding family very strange. Many of us spend a significant time socializing with our spouses family- because they are now family- not because we really have anything in common or conversational chemistry.
To spend time with a friend, there would have be a very strong chemistry and personal connection. We say we are busy and don't spend all that much time with our friends. But my wife's family gets together every weekend and we spend so many hours with them. Family tradition.
They act so friendly to me but I suspect it is only because I am married to their daughter, or sister or cousin. Without that connection it is likely they would not give me the time of day.
if i had the chance to meet them outside of knowing their daughter...sure, why not?
my siblings have little in common with my parents outside of being their offspring, but they still manage to hold conversations and enjoy their time together.
you dont have to agree eye to eye or have X amount of things in common to enjoy peoples company
They act so friendly to me but I suspect it is only because I am married to their daughter, or sister or cousin. Without that connection it is likely they would not give me the time of day.
Would you rather they treat you like crap and make you feel unwelcome? When I was married I was very close to his family and really enjoyed spending time with his parents and siblings. They were always welcoming towards me and I never thought their actions were fake.
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I am quite close to one of my husband's sisters; her son and ours are the same age. Another sister is very nice but we don't hear much from her. The two oldest siblings have a different mother and I have little use for either of them.
My father-in-law is rather grouchy but it seems to be because he doesn't like his wife, a sentiment shared by all five siblings. She's sweet enough now because she's usually drunk, but she didn't want children and didn't hesitate to let her stepchildren know it throughout their childhood. My father-in-law is less grouchy when she is not there, but spending time with him involves hours of cribbage, listening to Fox News during waking hours at an excruciating volume, and watching him fall asleep within minutes of sitting down to watch anything. And wine, lots of wine.
I'm not friends with my husbands side of the family, but we'll go on vacation together and we are pleasant to eachother. I don't call them on the phone just to chit chat though...can't remember the last time I have had a social conversation with any of them.
If I wasn't married to him, I can't see myself being friends with them. We just don't have much in common.
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