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Old 11-20-2013, 06:07 PM
 
Location: Katonah, NY
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i haven't talked to her since...just a couple texts immediately afterwards explaining...but i've been holding back precisely for that reason

if i went with the truth 100% of the time, i'd come off as overly antagonistic.

"hey, where were you?"
"at the gym" is a lot easier than "i don't want you to know"...

even if i was just at home doing nothing..
I'm not sure why you are in relationships with people if you don't want them to know anything about you - including when you are home doing nothing.
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Old 11-20-2013, 06:17 PM
 
Location: Davenport, Iowa
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I'm not sure why you are in relationships with people if you don't want them to know anything about you - including when you are home doing nothing.
I'm guessing he's in relationships for the attention and drama.
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Old 11-20-2013, 06:31 PM
 
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Yup...lol. that's my current gf. 6 months strong and counting!
So you have a gf now you've been with for 6 months and youre upset about your EX not talking to you? Wow you ARE a pos.

If I found out my SO was hung up on their ex she'd be gone so fast. Ha.

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Old 11-20-2013, 06:33 PM
 
Location: The Great West
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If I found out my SO was hung up on their ex she'd be gone so fast. Ha.
Agreed.

The OP seems to have....strange relationships anyway.
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Old 11-20-2013, 08:20 PM
 
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So you have a gf now you've been with for 6 months and youre upset about your EX not talking to you? Wow you ARE a pos.

If I found out my SO was hung up on their ex she'd be gone so fast. Ha.

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Because I still care what my first real girlfriend thinks of me, particularly when we were friends for a couple years after we dated, I'm comparable to a piece of excrement...?

Is that what you're telling me, really?

I guess I don't have that hardened 'give no effs' shell...

But, I think I rather care...even if that makes me a pos in your book.

Whatever.

I feel how I feel...no sense in justifying a feeling. It's there regardless...
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Old 11-20-2013, 08:30 PM
 
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I'm not sure why you are in relationships with people if you don't want them to know anything about you - including when you are home doing nothing.
Why am I in relationships I don't necessarily want to be in?

Well, let's see.
I have working relationships. I'm in those relationships because I need to get paid.
I have social relationships. I'm in those relationships because you can't treat your friends friends like you don't know them.
I have academic relationships. I'm in those relationships to further those working relationships, which leads to me getting even more paid.
I have one romantic relationship that I'm in. I'm in that relationship because I can't get away from it. She's too nice to me for me not to be with her.
etc etc

Not that I'm not wrong...there's obviously a better way to go about it...but I think I'm entitled to my privacy, and seeing as I can't get away with not being in relationships with people...

I just think your point isn't well thought out at all.
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Old 11-20-2013, 08:31 PM
 
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I'm guessing he's in relationships for the attention and drama.
You guess wrong..lol
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Old 11-20-2013, 08:36 PM
 
Location: Katonah, NY
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Why am I in relationships I don't necessarily want to be in?

Well, let's see.
I have working relationships. I'm in those relationships because I need to get paid.
I have social relationships. I'm in those relationships because you can't treat your friends friends like you don't know them.
I have academic relationships. I'm in those relationships to further those working relationships, which leads to me getting even more paid.
I have one romantic relationship that I'm in. I'm in that relationship because I can't get away from it. She's too nice to me for me not to be with her.
etc etc

Not that I'm not wrong...there's obviously a better way to go about it...but I think I'm entitled to my privacy, and seeing as I can't get away with not being in relationships with people...

I just think your point isn't well thought out at all.
I'm not talking about academic relationships or work relationships. I'm talking about romantic relationships. You are choosing to be with someone when you don't have to be in a romantic relationship. Successful romantic relationships are built on trust and communication. You are unable to be truthful and you are unable to communicate - therefore I don't understand why you believe it's a good idea to be in a romantic relationship. My point is well though out for people that want a healthy, successful relationship.
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Old 11-20-2013, 08:48 PM
 
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Here, dew...I'll make this simple.

You said:

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I'm not sure why you are in relationships with people if you don't want them to know anything about you - including when you are home doing nothing.
Whereas I said:
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i just didn't like everyone knowing everything about me.
Do you see where you went wrong?

Hint: Observe the bolded.
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Old 11-20-2013, 08:53 PM
 
Location: Katonah, NY
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Here, dew...I'll make this simple.

You said:



Whereas I said:


Do you see where you went wrong?

Hint: Observe the bolded.
I'll make this simple. You understand my points but are being deliberately obtuse. I'm okay with that. And do you know why? Because I'm able to have healthy relationships and you are not - nor will you ever be until you grow up and realize what relationships (and I mean romantic relationships) are all about. You can continue to lie and act crazy - but I have a feeling things are never going to end well for you if you continue on that path. And I think you know that.
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