Newly single but why do all men want to bed me? (dress, break up)

[usamathman]

emotional unavailability

[Frihed89]

I think it goes with the territory of being "older". I wouldn't automatically disqualify anyone.

Try, "no, not yet" and see if it works.

[freemkt]

Originally Posted by pepperblack

So I'm pretty new to being single as I'm going through a divorce after 16 years of marriage. It seems like I just have to brush guys off me that want to boink me. I'm getting sick of this After a bit I start to wonder if this is normal or what? Help what is a good way to get them to back off just a little bit.

Just talk to them:

"Whoah" - (TM) Raena

[CSD610]

Originally Posted by lovesthebass

I guess the appropriate question is, "What rock has the OP been living under their entire adult life?"

I think the more appropriate question might be:

What body language are you consciously or unconsciously using?
It could be the perception these men are getting from you.

I'm not saying you are trying to be a trollop however,
going through a divorce puts you in a vulnerable state
and you could honestly be unaware of how your actions
are being perceived by men.

Some men have the ill informed idea that women who are
divorcing are going to be easy to get into a sexual only
relationship. Since you have been in a marriage for so long
you have needs, desires, you are vulnerable yet don't want
to get into a long term relationship immediately, etc.

[hawaiiancoconut]

I can assure you, OP, not ALL men want to boink you.

[JordanJP]

Because boinking is fun?

There's a phrase that goes "The best way to get over someone is to get under someone."

[dave nz]

Another phrase :

Males spend the first 6 months of their lifes trying to get out of a woman. Once out, they then spend most of the rest of their lives trying to get back inside them.

[Iced Coffee]

Originally Posted by dave nz

Another phrase :

Males spend the first 6 months of their lifes trying to get out of a woman. Once out, they then spend most of the rest of their lives trying to get back inside.

I'm pretty sure it's 9 months.

[dave nz]

Originally Posted by Iced Coffee

I'm pretty sure it's 9 months.

yeah but you not trying to get out all that time

[Frihed89]

Originally Posted by CSD610

I think the more appropriate question might be:

Some men have the ill informed idea that women who are
divorcing are going to be easy to get into a sexual only
relationship. Since you have been in a marriage for so long
you have needs, desires, you are vulnerable yet don't want
to get into a long term relationship immediately, etc.

What I think about this comment is that some women, after escaping from a marriage where they have been beaten down, will seek confirmation as a woman through sex. I wouldn't call this vulnerability. The cases i have seen have been quite purposeful.