Please register to participate in our discussions with 2 million other members - it's free and quick! Some forums can only be seen by registered members. After you create your account, you'll be able to customize options and access all our 15,000 new posts/day with fewer ads.
Is it the same thing as a cooperative? I thought they were different.
I'm not sure what a "cooperative" is. I'm talking about when a bunch of friends rent a house together. They may have to advertise to fill an extra room with a stranger, but the core group of residents are friends.
If you're living in the same house together, it's easy enough to create alone time by hanging out in your room with your SO. You can also have alone time if everyone has different work schedules, so sometimes the house is empty except for the couple. Or if you're hanging out at another house with a group, your SO invites you into his/her room. Or as posted earlier, you might break away from the group at dinner time to go check out a restaurant together, on the spur the moment. Is that a date, if there's no formal invitation, no advance arrangement penciled into the calendar? There's a grey area between "date" and "hanging out at the local pizza place".
And to answer your first questions, many of the people in these groups never dated in HS or college. The guys were too shy, the women never got asked, or couldn't get a reaction from the guys they might have been interested in. HS and even college dating are not the universal experiences the media would have us believe they are.
So basically this is how less desirable and/or socially awkward women and men get together.
So basically this is how less desirable and/or socially awkward women and men get together.
You could call it that. But according to our occasional Aussie posters, the group activity thing is a way of life there, and dating also doesn't seem to happen. 2 people in the group decide they're interested in each other, and at some point after feelings grow, they decide to go to the apt. of one of them for sex. Whether or not that involves "falling in love", I don't know. This group thing is how it works in much of Scandinavia, too, and generally involves pretty attractive people. Maybe conventional dating is gradually on the way out in developed countries??
But isn't something like this what the "Friends" show on TV was based on? Except the gang lived in a couple of separate apartments, or something?
That was out of line. Lots of people prefer that way of relating as it is decidedly more organic.
I, personally, prefer a more formal structure. One system isn't better or for more desirable people.
How was that out of line? I basically just restated what Ruth said about people who were not socially confident being more comfortable with getting together in that manner.
Location: RI, MA, VT, WI, IL, CA, IN (that one sucked), KY
41,936 posts, read 37,171,503 times
Reputation: 40641
Quote:
Originally Posted by calipoppy
How was that out of line? I basically just restated what Ruth said about people who were not socially confident being more comfortable with getting together in that manner.
You're forgetting about the "less desirable" part of your statement.
Please register to post and access all features of our very popular forum. It is free and quick. Over $68,000 in prizes has already been given out to active posters on our forum. Additional giveaways are planned.
Detailed information about all U.S. cities, counties, and zip codes on our site: City-data.com.
Please register to participate in our discussions with 2 million other members - it's free and quick! Some forums can only be seen by registered members. After you create your account, you'll be able to customize options and access all our 15,000 new posts/day with fewer ads.
