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That wouldn't be a miracle, it would be a tragedy. I'm going to have to remember to give a friend the green light to end me and take all my stuff if I ever give that serious consideration, since it will mean that I've gone completely insane.
I delved too deeply into female psychology and was disgusted at what I found. Only insanity could make me forget what I've learned. And not the fun kind of insanity, either. Dating, FB, FWB, that's one thing. I *may* do those again at some point, if I ever decide to actually talk to and interact with women in real life again. Marriage is absolutely off the table; cohabitation is quite unlikely too.
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Happy for you!
Even though you had declared "never again" some little part of you stayed up to the possibilities and your husband was able to get your attention. When people close themselves off to new possibilities they don't usually get them - a self fulfilling prophecy so to speak.
When it comes to this subject, perfectly fine with me. I will NEVER marry.
That wouldn't be a miracle, it would be a tragedy. I'm going to have to remember to give a friend the green light to end me and take all my stuff if I ever give that serious consideration, since it will mean that I've gone completely insane.
I delved too deeply into female psychology and was disgusted at what I found. Only insanity could make me forget what I've learned. And not the fun kind of insanity, either. Dating, FB, FWB, that's one thing. I *may* do those again at some point, if I ever decide to actually talk to and interact with women in real life again. Marriage is absolutely off the table; cohabitation is quite unlikely too.
That is your right, of course. To me, it sounds like you are closing off a part of yourself so that you will never fully love someone again or allow anyone to love you in return. You seem too young to live the rest of your life without love, but maybe you don't care and you won't ever care.
The fact that you were so deeply hurt, and have gone to such great lengths to protect your heart, suggests to me that underneath the hard shell, you are a sensitive and passionate individual. It's too bad that no one will ever get close enough to experience that side of you again.
Oh well, life goes on.
If the unthinkable happens and my marriage ends, I might feel the same way again. My husband is one-of-a-kind. They don't make men like him anymore. If he ever left, I would just give up.
Having been through the divorce meatgrinder once already, there is NOTHING that a woman offers that is worth the risk of going through it again.
As I said in another post, in my experience (and what I've observed with friends and family), women are not good companions at all. If I want companionship, I will get a dog. Or a cat. Or a foul-tempered rabbit (yes, it must be foul-tempered. Like Bun Bun from Sluggy Freelance). Or a snake.
I'm assuming you meant someone to put hemhorroid cream on you when you're pregnant. Since men can't get pregnant, I don't think this applies. And I'm not keen on putting hemhorroid cream on anyone else.
You mean pointing a nuclear weapon at me that she can set off at any time, with the State's blessing, and remove from my life on a whim, WHILE simultaneously forcing me to pay a third of my gross earnings, with State force standing by to be used against me if I lose my job or something?
Thank you....no.
While I'm tempted to give you this one, due to my last girlfriend (I still think about some things and smile, and she left 2 years ago), I think back to the ex wife, or the girl that got pregnant by another guy and tried to say it was mine and hit me up for Mommy's Party Fund Support, til the DNA test said no....Keep in mind, she's been lying to her daughter for 14 years, telling her that I was her father. Poor kid had searched Teh Interwebz trying to find me, which I found out after the po-leece dropped paperwork off for the Mommy's Party Fund Support case. Then there's the girl from high school that got mad because I dumped HER before she could dump ME, and decided that the appropriate response was to make a false accusation that could have landed me in prison at the tender young age of 18. I was a couple months from graduating high school, 7 months from shipping out to basic training, and facing a false accusation. The type that "women would NEVER lie about". Uh, yeah, they would, I'm living proof.
That's a great memory, right there. As is being lied to for YEARS about where the money in the checking account is going. It's great to know that while you were struggling to pay the electric bill and put food on the table, you were also bankrolling someone else's mother's Home Shopping Network addiction, AND paying for a dog for their grandmother to abuse ad neglect. Even better was having the po-leece at my house because her kid was dealing heroin IN MY HOUSE while I was at work, and allowing all his druggie friends to eat everything in the house. I loved spending a thousand dollars a month on groceries and never having food in the house. The thought of the cops breaking down the door and executing a warrant on my home, searching for his drugs, was even better, especially since I like to shoot and hunt and have a nice collection of firearms. Nothing I'd like better than to watch the things I worked hard for get "lost" in po-leece evidence.
I prefer the Heckler & Koch retirement plan. Or sitting on a beach in Peru and just dying.
Not a benefit, IMO. Firstly because I think it's just a matter of time until .gov seizes everyone's 401(k)'s to pay for .gov's outrageous spending, as has already been done in at least a few other countries (European countries, not Banana Republics). Secondly, I *HAD* a 401(k) at one point. Five years I contributed to it. Had just gotten vested in the company's pension program, too.
Now I have neither. She got more than half my 401(k), and the rest was withdrawn over a period of months to keep my car from getting repo'ed and my house from getting foreclosed while I tried to find a job in my new/old home state.
Now I'm rebuilding my retirement from scratch, and am part of a pretty good retirement system....as long as CONgress doesn't decide they really, REALLY want that money, like they did with SS decades ago.
Only a benefit for women, since men typically die sooner. Also, as someone else mentioned, SS won't be around by the time I'm old enough to collect. Luckily, I don't pay into it, because my work has a different system. Unluckily, CONgress could rob that just as easily as they robbed SS.
This one I WILL give you.
Ha, there are all kinds of reasons that people could say. Personally, I think they wanted the tax break, insurance, and the ability for their partner to make medical decisions for them and inherit their stuff. None of which I disagree with. But IMO, you should be able to leave your stuff to whoever you want, name someone to make medical decisions for you if you are unable to do so, and put your dog on your health insurance if that's the only creature that lives with you. Unmarried couples living together should get all that, too. NOT allowing unmarried couples all of that is (again, in my opinion) a violation of the Equal Protection Clause of the 14th Amendment.
There are and you will find her probably in the most unlikely places.
I stay hopeful although at times I have been single for so long that sometimes I start thinking “what’s the use anymore?” Of course I need to put myself out there more and figure out a way to shrug off, deal with, and overcome the regrettable heartbreaks which have been devastating to my soul. To put it as mildly as I can possibly muster: this has not been appreciated nor forgotten.
I see a common pattern among the bitterly divorced and that is among the reasons I would never consider, let alone approach, a formerly divorced. One gal promptly informed me upfront that “I have divorced before and I am not afraid to pull the trigger again”. I thanked her for being so forthright and politely said “good bye”, not that I would have ever pursued anything in the slightest with such an angry and bitter individual. I feel sorry for the next several unlucky souls who may have the misfortune to ever cross her path or God forbid, get involved with her.
The posters echo what I have heard from similar divorcees over the years and this goes back quite a ways. The anger and bitterness is thick enough to cut with a knife and is what I meant when I believe that romance is all but dead, forgotten, shunned and avoided in today’s wonderful ever loving society. It makes me wish at times that God would quickly and completely vanquish all humanity from the face of the Earth and start the process all over again and see if another couple eons of fresh human development might turn out better this time as the current sample has successfully failed miserably. Good thing God doesn’t do Performance Reviews on humanity as immediateTermination With Supreme Prejudice is most definitely required and strongly recommended here.
Yes hearing the woes of the divorced, those that at least had something to work with, but were unable, or more likely, unwilling to put the work required into it is rather depressing but considering the species involved not surprising in the least.
Don't let anyone tease you. You sound like a wonderful date and a good guy. You keep doing whatever it is you feel is right and what you feel comfortable doing. Unfortunately, it sounds like you're not meeting quality women who appreciate a quality man. Keep at it.
Thank you, and yes I know they are being facetious. I feel like the Nice Guy who according to the saying “finishes last” when it should be “finishes first”. I can’t be anyone else and as long as I’m still here I will continue being the Nice Guy who enjoys romance and thinks flowers on a date is a nice romantic touch. At times I feel like I’m in the wrong century, like in a sci fi film, and as yet unable to get repositioned in the correct time and place.
There are women out there like that, rare as all get out, and I will find her.
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Happy for you!
I will NEVER marry. 
