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To think people will be married for life? Back in the day people stayed married basically where we're they going to go? Today women have more freedom and options. Then throw in after the kids are grown then what?
To think people will be married for life? Back in the day people stayed married basically where we're they going to go? Today women have more freedom and options. Then throw in after the kids are grown then what?
It's not something that will happen about 50% of the time, but it's an ideal to strive for and work at.
To think people will be married for life? Back in the day people stayed married basically where we're they going to go? Today women have more freedom and options. Then throw in after the kids are grown then what?
I think that's a good question but it does not only lie on the woman.
My parents were together forever, but each being the others second marriage. I stayed with my ex-husband for as long as I could.
I could not ever imagine not being with my SO. When I think of him, of think of us growing old together. I think of happiness.
I was not happy in my marriage due to how he treated me. I was a sad and depressed person. I was hurt.
I never felt like I had any freedom or options. One day I finally broke free. It took a long time for me to feel like I had the strength to do that.
Now, I do not feel like I need to break free from anything. I am happy in my life and happy in love.
I think that makes a big difference. The people in the marriage need to be happy with themselves before they can ever be happy with one another. If they aren't, sometimes it just doesn't work.
My parents have been married for over 50 years, and my mom has always said that the "secret" is that a good marriage is a choice that you make every day. Some people on this forum make it sound like relationships are always contentious and that the other person is out to get them and ruin their life, but in reality they're a team. They don't take each other for granted and they accept each other for who they are.
That said, not all relationships are meant to last forever. Sometimes a good relationship runs its course and ends, and that's okay, too.
To think people will be married for life? Back in the day people stayed married basically where we're they going to go? Today women have more freedom and options. Then throw in after the kids are grown then what?
Is it possible? Yes! Is it likely? Tougher concept for me to grasp.
Had my first wife not died at a young age, I do feel confidant that we would still be married today, and would be happy. We would have been married for 18 years now. However, when I proposed to my first wife, I promised her the best 25 years I had to offer. After 25 years, we would have to consider how we felt and where we were in regards to compatibility.
That being said, when the concept of marriage was created, people didn't live nearly as long as they do now. Life didn't happen at the speed it moves now. It wasn't poisoned with all the negative input from other peoples perspectives, as easily.
Another thing is that the divorce rate is so high that I think for some people it becomes a get out of free jail card. My second wife, wasn't willing to commit to the work that a healthy relationship needs. When it got tough, it was easy for her to choose the less difficult route and she left.
Marriage takes work, and today with women being so called independent, a lot of them give up too easy. Women initiate 70% of all divorces.
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Well, it's an ideal
