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And what happens when one person thinks they should wait longer and the other person constantly makes them feel guilty that time is running out for them and they are anticipating your decision... their entire life is on hold because you are not making a decision....
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And what happens when one person thinks they should wait longer and the other person constantly makes them feel guilty that time is running out for them and they are anticipating your decision... their entire life is on hold because you are not making a decision....
I wouldn't want to keep dating anyone that tried to make me feel guilty or pressure me into anything I was unsure of. I certainly wouldn't want to marry that person. (Time running out? They about to die?)
Most people I know that married did so in their mid/late 30s, and I only know one out of the dozen or so that dated less than 2 years before engagement.
I think at that age, many people are dating with a purpose, not just for the fun of it.
I don't think you need to be married within a two-year timeframe, but I do think that after two years, you "should" have a solid idea of whether or not this is the person you want to share your life with.
At some point it does become wasting time or stringing someone along, especially for women who have biology against them the older they get, if they want to have children. It's not two months, it's two years, which is more than enough time to get to know someone.
I'm curious what's stopping you from making a decision.
I just turned 30. I'm not in a rush, but I am somewhat marriage minded, so I think 2 years is about right. I feel like in my 30's I've dated a lot and I have a pretty good idea of what I want and what I don't, so it won't take me as long to know if someone is right or not.
And what happens when one person thinks they should wait longer and the other person constantly makes them feel guilty that time is running out for them and they are anticipating your decision... their entire life is on hold because you are not making a decision....
Then you go your separate ways and live happily ever after. Don't ever let anyone pressure you into marriage, it would be the worst mistake of your life. In todays political climate and heavily slanted judicial system, any man choosing to marry ought to be evaluated by a psychologist.
And what happens when one person thinks they should wait longer and the other person constantly makes them feel guilty that time is running out for them and they are anticipating your decision... their entire life is on hold because you are not making a decision....
Why would you want to marry someone who uses emotional abuse tactics to get their way in the relationship?
Any woman that tried to force or pressure a guy into marrying her is in for a rude awakening... ain't gonna happen.
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