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I know confidence, personality, money, status, and all of those things matter but I am talking about just looks. Like I have friends who are good looking guys, one of my friends looks like actor Danny Pino (exactly like him) and he has never been approached by girls or told he is hot. Then I see girls saying a guy is hot when he doesn't have any classically handsome features that make a man attractive.
Like I don't know what it is about a guy that when he steps into a room girls smile, say he is cute or hot, or just want to approach him.
Anyone want to add something?
Some people aren't hearing your pleas of "not all, but a majority", so I'll help sum up what my experiences have been. Keep in mind that nothing can be done about some of these things. I'm also kind of in a mood to spark some outrage..so here goes
Tall
Hygiene hygiene hygiene. Especially teeth, but everything. Find a good, not exceedingly powerful cologne, and go easy with it.
Outstanding eyes. By this, I mean a certain color, sparkle, etc. Nothing you can do about it within reason, but it's a HUGE deal. Blue will get you the most attention.
Low body fat is more important to women than what most guys consider "muscular". Most women don't know the difference. You'll have a lot of success with what could be described as a "swimmer's" build.
Depending on your age, tattoos. The general demographic of women here are old enough where it won't do much for them but for the under-30 crowd, it helps WAY more than it hurts.
Broad shoulders
On a more personal level, women GENERALLY are drawn to men that are bigger than them. If she's 6'0", she'll want a guy 6'3" or taller. If she's 5'0", then 5'6" is fine. Same goes for weight. Again, GENERALLY.
Clothes are another one where men and women think differently. Men generally think this means suits, etc. Women care more about you looking "not sloppy" than looking "nice". As long as it's coordinated, neat, and put together, you're good. I'm a suit and tie guy pretty much exclusively, but that's a personal preference...I'd be wearing it regardless of what women thought.
Dark hair will suit you better than blond hair, which will suit you better than red hair. And bald is better than any kind of look that shows balding (i.e. comb over).
But some of the effects you're referring to aren't necessarily "physical" like how you'd think of them. A guy can command a room with simple gestures. An example, and one I've had friends comment me on, is that if there are three of you about ready to walk through a 2-person door, walk in front. Poof, instant confidence. You look like the leader instead of the entourage. And it had nothing to do with your "physical" features, so to speak.
The strongest factor in a guy's level of attractiveness is the way he carries himself, e.g. his attitude and the vibe/energy he gives off. Looks are a part of that, as is hygiene and dress. Personality is also a part of it. Treatment of others (anyone, including animals) is a part of it. Emotional intelligence is part of it. Confidence is a major part of it. But in the end it's the complete package and how all the parts fit, blend and work together. It also matters that the person seems real (genuine), consistent, and that the way he carries himself come across as natural and effortless to others. In other words, he's not trying to be like that...he is like that; it's who he is...it's baked into his DNA.
Different people are attracted to different things, but there are certain traits that some men and women have which makes them attractive to a higher percentage of people. The distribution is like a gentle bell curve. That said, I doubt there exists a guy out there that literally has most women attracted to him. Plenty of people do not care for Christian Bale at all.
I also believe that some people just have "it". Which can't be learned or taught.
I know confidence, personality, money, status, and all of those things matter but I am talking about just looks. Like I have friends who are good looking guys, one of my friends looks like actor Danny Pino (exactly like him) and he has never been approached by girls or told he is hot. Then I see girls saying a guy is hot when he doesn't have any classically handsome features that make a man attractive.
Like I don't know what it is about a guy that when he steps into a room girls smile, say he is cute or hot, or just want to approach him.
Anyone want to add something?
Are you a guy?? I ask because if you're a straight man you most likely will not find men "hot" like a woman would.
For example I think most female porn stars are GROSS and very unattractive but I bet must men would disagree with me.
Are you a guy?? I ask because if you're a straight man you most likely will not find men "hot" like a woman would.
For example I think most female porn stars are GROSS and very unattractive but I bet must men would disagree with me.
I can always pick out the guys women find hot.
Women are funny. They like all the hot guys, but they don't like the same hot guys. For example, if I pick out a good looking guy, the first two women might not think he's hot, but the third will. Or the fourth of the fifth.
But if I pick a below average guy, it's a bet no woman will ever find him hot.
Women are very picky about looks. Men think pornstars are hot, they think women like you are hot, and they think below average skanks are hot. It goes on and on.
Dude, if you are tall and still unsuccessful with women, no one here can help you. White women, especially, care mostly about image and appearance. Height is by far the most important physical aspect for most women. For a good portion, it is the most important aspect of a man (including personality and character). There really is no excuse for this.
My friends & I cannot agree on who is good-looking when it comes to men. Women's tastes seem to vary a lot more between individuals & we seem less given to peer pressure. Men seem to need to hold the same standard so they can "win", I guess .
Otherwise, a lot of is about the way the man carries himself, the vibe he gives off. Still, we can go for very different vibes too. I don't tend to like the attitudes some other women may like in men.
Dude, if you are tall and still unsuccessful with women, no one here can help you. White women, especially, care mostly about image and appearance. Height is by far the most important physical aspect for most women. For a good portion, it is the most important aspect of a man (including personality and character). There really is no excuse for this.
Facial good looks are way more important than height.
A shortish (5'8"?) guy who is handsome will whoop some tall goofy looking dude any day. Of course, if that handsome guy is too short, then it starts to get bad, but still he'll still be able to get some.
Average looking and very short = screwed.
Women don't really care about body as much as men do. For many men, a good body is enough no matter what is attached to it. And I don't mean just good enough for sex. They'll really think she's beautiful, etc.
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