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Originally Posted by Astute
True, but he must first meet a certain cutoff when it comes to looks. If a potential man does not meet that cutoff, nothing he says in that 15 seconds will ever make him attractive to you, will it? There's of course nothing wrong with that as people should have the right to date who they are attracted to. But, you must cede to the reality that many on here refuse to acknowledge that many unattractive men go their entire lives without any affection from women because of their looks.
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I think it's true we all have some standard, but we don't necessarily define it easily.
Saying what you don't like is probably easier than saying what you do, because there may be much more variety in what you find attractive, but more specific things which are turn-offs (or which compose the "cut-off" point)
However, sometimes we surprise even ourselves. Years go, I would've said I needed a man to be my height or taller to be attractive. I'm 5'7.5 and ended up dating a guy who was 5'5 (maybe 5'4 even) for a bit. He was cute & charming in every other way.
As of right now, fat or bald or older than about 45 are still "cutoffs" for me though. Maybe some guy who is cute & charming in every other way would change that in 15 seconds (but I think it takes longer for a guy to "grow" on you, and is best done through repeated, casual exposure).
And of course, regarding your last point, many unattractive women go their entire lives without any affection from men because of their looks, too. And it's probably worse for them, because looks are valued much more for women than for men. Maybe you guys should team up
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