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I prefer talking too. I also agree that most people don't know how to communicate (women included), which is why texting works better than talking.
So, when the two finally meet up, do they just sit there (like say, at a restaurant, or park) and text each other? Or do they sit there together and text other people?
I waited tables for years, and most of my girlfriends have waitressed or worked in the service industry at some point or another. It is our JOB to be friendly, smile, remember customers (and their orders), etc. Several came up with different ways of avoiding the pit of getting asked out, up to and including wearing a fake engagement ring.
Generally, you shouldn't ask out someone who is waiting on you unless she has given you very, very clear and obvious signals that she wants you to ask her out. But really, you shouldn't ask out your waitperson, especially if it someplace where you are a regular. Just makes things too uncomfortable.
Are you gonna tell us it's a generational thing and that younger women don't like a guy who is confident enough to approach them, talk to them and get to know them, that they'd rather a stranger text them?
It might be true if you're talking about some girls under 21, but then those girls are going to grow up and stop thinking it's so cute, and want a man who goes after what he wants.
So I have been going to a restaurant at least once a week for more than a year because I really like the food.
About 6 months ago a new waitress was hired which I found beautiful.
Most of the times she was the one who took my order so lately she already knows what I normally drink and eat which is pretty much the same thing that I really like.
So every time she sees me she just smiles and says "The same?". I know the smile has nothing to do because it's part of their job to have a nice attitude. But my point is that she already knew what I liked to order.
I'm usually a little shy at the beginning so last Friday I told myself "What the heck?" I'm going to ask for her phone number and I really don't care about the outcome.
So when she brings the check I asked her if she was single and she said yes. Then I said "Could I have your phone number?"
At first she kind of hesitated but then she took the receipt and wrote her name and her phone number.
Next Monday (3 days after seeing her) I sent her a simple text message saying "Hello, this is [my name] from the restaurant who goes there every Friday. How are you? Did you enjoy the super bowl?"
And that was it. I did not write something like You are the hottest girl I've ever seen !! Or could I take you out?
I simply wanted to start a conversation.
Long story short she never responded my text message and today I went to the restaurant again (as usually every Friday) and she took my order but she barely looked at me and only said once if I needed anything.
I did not tell her anything like complaining why she did not answer my message, or give me a call, etc.
I simply asked for the check and left.
Has anybody been in similar situations?
I usually tip the waitresses 15%-20% depending on the service. Maybe she was expecting a big tip since she gave me her phone number and when she saw that I only left 20% she thought that I may be a cheapo?
I really don't understand why she gave me her phone number and never answered my text message.
Thanks
She is probably seeing loads of other guys. What I would have done to made an impression on her is to probably be a bit douche. I would have brought along maybe a sister or a female friend as a date to this very establishment this woman work as waitress. From then on she would probably notice you as a desirable person. She would give you the phone number regardless later on but her taking note that you are with other women would make her more interested in communicating with you.
So, when the two finally meet up, do they just sit there (like say, at a restaurant, or park) and text each other? Or do they sit there together and text other people?
You don't get the point compadre.
Texting at early stages is the right way to go in my opinion. But as everything you don't have to agree.
I waited tables for years, and most of my girlfriends have waitressed or worked in the service industry at some point or another. It is our JOB to be friendly, smile, remember customers (and their orders), etc. Several came up with different ways of avoiding the pit of getting asked out, up to and including wearing a fake engagement ring.
Generally, you shouldn't ask out someone who is waiting on you unless she has given you very, very clear and obvious signals that she wants you to ask her out. But really, you shouldn't ask out your waitperson, especially if it someplace where you are a regular. Just makes things too uncomfortable.
You haven't read my first post MoonBeam33.
I never asked her out.
I asked for her phone number and she wrote it down.
Very simple.
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