Ladies, would you date a 30 year old virgin? (dates, boyfriends, how to)
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People ask this before they start dating? Maybe I am just an odd duck. I don't care about past girlfriends and such that early on (if ever). The man I was dating recently, never asked him a thing about past lovers (but he told me a lot). I am mostly interested in what we have in common... or conversation pieces. I'll tell you what though, a lot of men volunteer and will go on and on about their Ex on a first date when you never even asked (big turn off and it tells me they aren't ready to date--aren't over her).
I can easily imagine a man who got to 30 without having sex though... I've known guys who fall into that camp. They are good, decent guys. Most of them were very studious and just didn't take time to date or they were just shy. That's why I said it's a non issue for me, because I can put faces to it. But like I said, I am older than 30 and most men I meet in my age group (late 30s early 40s) have been married and are divorced (not virgins). It's rare enough to meet a man who hasn't been married, let alone a virgin. But I am sure it happens.
I think you're being ridiculously literal here. They would go on a date or two and then they might talk about sex and it might come up. Or they may about to have sex and the guy says it. The question is what would the girls reaction be? Would she say "sorry I cant do this because its too weird" or something more sympathetic.
I think you're being ridiculously literal here. They would go on a date or two and then they might talk about sex and it might come up. Or they may about to have sex and the guy says it. The question is what would the girls reaction be? Would she say "sorry I cant do this because its too weird" or something more sympathetic.
From a man's perspective, I'd be stoked to have such a girl who had never been with another man. They are the best kind because they end up being the most committed and the least likely to carrying baggage from the past. If I were a Muslim, I'd think I had died and gone to heaven.
Everyone was a virgin at one time. Nothing weird about it as far as I can tell. Losing one's virginity at a young age is overrated. I think you've watched American Pie one too many times.
I think you're being ridiculously literal here. They would go on a date or two and then they might talk about sex and it might come up. Or they may about to have sex and the guy says it. The question is what would the girls reaction be? Would she say "sorry I cant do this because its too weird" or something more sympathetic.
The question was, "would you date a 30 year old virgin." Not would you continue a relationship with one after you found out. In your scenario, they've been dating. Yeah, I am being very literally, that's true--but it is the subject. What you are talking about is something different. In your situation I really don't know what most women would do. All I know is what I would do and it wouldn't bother me in the least... if I've been dating him long enough that I am ready to have sex with him, then I think he's a great guy and it's a non-issue that will be "solved" soon .
The question was, "would you date a 30 year old virgin." Not would you continue a relationship with one after you found out.
I imagine if a girls goes to a friend of hers and says " I know a very sweet guy, thing is he's a 30 year old virgin, interested in dating in him?" the response would likely by "LMAO date a 30 yr old virgin? ROFL".
For one thing, over 99% of adult male virgins are not virgins by choice. They madly want to get laid and find a girlfriend, they're just too shy and haven't taken advantage of the few times women have taken interest in them. So put the "maybe they just have high standards and are saving themselves" idea to rest.
With women its like a job application, if you don't have any experience, they aren't interested. They'd rather be with a promiscuous man who probably has stds(yes stds are way more common than the average person realizes.)
I imagine if a girls goes to a friend of hers and says " I know a very sweet guy, thing is he's a 30 year old virgin, interested in dating in him?" the response would likely by "LMAO date a 30 yr old virgin? ROFL".
I've never known any adult to talk like this, ever. Sounds like something out of a poorly written Hollywood script (or more likely porno). First off, how is one woman to know? Okay... I knew about my male friends from years ago... I knew they were virgins. I would never try to set them up with someone by talking about his sexual experience (or lack of it). What friend talks about such intimate details? I would say, "I know this sweet guy, he likes X just like you and he also loves X... you two would make a great couple. Want me to set something up so you can meet him?"
If the female doing the setting up knew that the guy was a virgin, you're extremely naïve if you don't think it would come up.
A 30 y/o virgin is somewhat of an oddity and I don't think I've ever known a woman who would pass on that sort of gossip between girls. Not that I think you're that way, jillabean, I just think most women are/would be.
Well, I've been called naive before... for a reason no doubt. Maybe my view is just different (narrower) because I was close friends and such. I couldn't imagine setting them up that way.
If the female doing the setting up knew that the guy was a virgin, you're extremely naïve if you don't think it would come up.
A 30 y/o virgin is somewhat of an oddity and I don't think I've ever known a woman who would pass on that sort of gossip between girls. Not that I think you're that way, jillabean, I just think most women are/would be.
I think having relationship experience is more important and valuable than sexual experience, although most people (aside from the very religious) who have the former also have the latter. Even better if the guy had at least one "successful" relationship where both he and the woman were mostly happy. Sex is easy to get without paying for it. One or more prior relationships likely (but not a guarantee) indicate that the guy actually can connect emotionally with women, can communicate with them and is comfortable around them. Some effort is also required to get into a relationship and make it work.
That said if you carry yourself with confidence, people will be far less likely to suspect you're a virgin and you shouldn't have much trouble attracting women despite your inexperience. But I suspect older virgins (25+) who are also secure are very, very rare.
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(big turn off and it tells me they aren't ready to date--aren't over her). 
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