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I'd put a little more effort into getting your anxiety in check. The movies always show the girl coming to the guy in trouble, putting in the effort to working them out with him and then they fall in love.
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Of the guys who are long term single and many times virgins what's the common denominator? Poor social skills and anxiety
It's next to impossible to be a guy(Particularly an average guy) and be successful with women with those traits. I have a friend like this, yeah he gets a pity lay or hooks up with a drunk girl every now and then(and this can be years apart) but any type of real lasting success? Nah
All this money people spend on therapy can be better used toward a personal trainer and gym membership.
Get a decent body and the confidence follows...
Working out is a great endorphin boost which would improve mood overall, but a better body doesn't solve anxiety. You have to determine/correct the root of the problem otherwise it's just like putting a bandaid on a broken leg.
Personally, I wouldn't have a problem with such a guy... I tend to be a laid back quiet person myself who would much rather stay at home and watch a movie with home-made popcorn and beer on a Saturday night with a date than go out and party or something with him. That is, assuming the man isn't so anxious that I can't even form a relationship with him in the first place (that's the big hurdle).
But I can see where a more extroverted, social butterfly kind of woman wouldn't like it. It would be very hard for you to share experiences you both like.
of the guys who are long term single and many times virgins what's the common denominator? Poor social skills and anxiety
it's next to impossible to be a guy(particularly an average guy) and be successful with women with those traits. I have a friend like this, yeah he gets a pity lay or hooks up with a drunk girl every now and then(and this can be years apart) but any type of real lasting success? Nah
Personally, I wouldn't have a problem with such a guy... I tend to be a laid back quiet person myself who would much rather stay at home and watch a movie with home-made popcorn and beer on a Saturday night with a date than go out and party or something with him. That is, assuming the man isn't so anxious that I can't even form a relationship with him in the first place (that's the big hurdle).
But I can see where a more extroverted, social butterfly kind of woman wouldn't like it. It would be very hard for you to share experiences you both like.
I'm not necessarily a laid+back and quiet person. It's just that my way of talking and enjoying myself is slightly different than the smooth, charming men that are out there.
Did you really think anyone was going to say that anxiety, or depression, poor social skills and other negative traits are desirable to anyone?
Anyone with these complaints/issues should be seeking to solve them and improve themselves. For as long as I've been a member here, I've seen the same thing from you repeatedly. Why do you choose to live this way and not help yourself? You seem to want to remain just as you are and expect women to overlook all of that. Why should they?
Your priorities are out of whack. You need to help yourself first and foremost because otherwise you are not a good candidate for the dating world.
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