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I get anxious with women that I am even remotely attracted to, including plain women. If I think that I want to date her, I get anxiety and an uneasy feeling in my chest. This is for pretty much most women my age, including rather plain women. There are attractive older and younger women, but they give no such anxiety, due to lack of interest.
Further more, my social skills are ****. I can talk about things passionately, but they are *things* like politics, technology, and botany. My humor is subpar (I don't easily find stuff funny, or find funny stuff), and I can't flirt or be seductive at all. In addition, I don't have much to say involving people-related stories including my own. On top of that I lack self-confidence in front of people...
...despite being able to have decent public-speaking skill.
That said, I do have manners, but that's about it.
You've had girlfriends before. How did you feel around them?
In addition to getting outside help, I would try to not think about dating these attractive and "plain" women. Just treat them like human beings and worry less about results.
I don't know how to treat adult humans like human beings. From my point of view they are all different species of a Genus.
All cats were cuddly little kittens once, but in their adult form they can be very different, like a domestic house cat and a tiger. Tigers are scary when aggressive, no matter how much I wish to pet them.
I get anxious with women that I am even remotely attracted to, including plain women. If I think that I want to date her, I get anxiety and an uneasy feeling in my chest. This is for pretty much most women my age, including rather plain women. There are attractive older and younger women, but they give no such anxiety, due to lack of interest.
Further more, my social skills are ****. I can talk about things passionately, but they are *things* like politics, technology, and botany. My humor is subpar (I don't easily find stuff funny, or find funny stuff), and I can't flirt or be seductive at all. In addition, I don't have much to say involving people-related stories including my own. On top of that I lack self-confidence in front of people...
...despite being able to have decent public-speaking skill.
That said, I do have manners, but that's about it.
Therapy is a joke, either your hot and women swoon or your not and they don't. Therapy is not going to get you a BJ. You have to find your level or you are going to look back on your life and all this usless counseling as so many wasted years when other guys will be looking back thinking about that woman that sucked him off in his car or what have you.
I think this started in childhood.
I Also had similar problems as Growing, thare was little comunication in my family growing up.
It affects our self confidance.
take the attitude "Idont care attitude what others think, some women are attrcted to such men.
JUST BE YOURSELF AND LET THE CHIPS FALL WHERE THEY MAY.
Therapy is a joke, either your hot and women swoon or your not and they don't. Therapy is not going to get you a BJ. You have to find your level or you are going to look back on your life and all this usless counseling as so many wasted years when other guys will be looking back thinking about that woman that sucked him off in his car or what have you.
The trick is to get you one of the women that are tired of being in beefcake's rotation. She realizes there's to much competition for his attention, she's getting used and she's tired of it.
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