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My wife has a friend who sets up coffee dates for the first meeting and asks the guy to wear a distinctive piece of clothing. She then arrives late; looks the guy over and, if he doesn't strike her fancy, she just leaves!
How rude.
My last date was a set up. When I arrived at the coffee shop, he didn't even stand to greet me or offer to get a drink for me. Since he'd arrived before me, he'd already ordered and was drinking his. Which leads me to wonder, what exactly is the etiquette for that?
I have one I've been chatting with thru OKC that wants to meet for coffee, which would require a 3 hr drive round trip to meet halfway. That seems a bit much for just a "meet and greet."
My last date was a set up. When I arrived at the coffee shop, he didn't even stand to greet me or offer to get a drink for me. Since he'd arrived before me, he'd already ordered and was drinking his. Which leads me to wonder, what exactly is the etiquette for that?
My last date was a set up. When I arrived at the coffee shop, he didn't even stand to greet me or offer to get a drink for me. Since he'd arrived before me, he'd already ordered and was drinking his. Which leads me to wonder, what exactly is the etiquette for that?
I have one I've been chatting with thru OKC that wants to meet for coffee, which would require a 3 hr drive round trip to meet halfway. That seems a bit much for just a "meet and greet."
I would never drive 3 hours for a coffee meet! Honestly I wouldn't meet someone who lives that far away, what is the point? I have in the past had dates with far away people, the furthest was Vermont, I'm in NJ, and we met in NYC for the say.
My wife has a friend who sets up coffee dates for the first meeting and asks the guy to wear a distinctive piece of clothing. She then arrives late; looks the guy over and, if he doesn't strike her fancy, she just leaves!
For all those mentioning blind dates, I didn't assume that the above was a blind date situation. I just thought she had seen pictures but didn't like the way they looked in person.
My last date was a set up. When I arrived at the coffee shop, he didn't even stand to greet me or offer to get a drink for me. Since he'd arrived before me, he'd already ordered and was drinking his. Which leads me to wonder, what exactly is the etiquette for that?
I'm not sure. If it's a setup/blind date I wouldn't expect the guy to buy me a drink, but if I got there first I'd wait for him to arrive before ordering.
For all those mentioning blind dates, I didn't assume that the above was a blind date situation. I just thought she had seen pictures but didn't like the way they looked in person.
Now that you mention it, this makes sense too. I'm finding that a lot of men on OKC have something from 2010 as their most recent picture.
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Originally Posted by fleetiebelle
I'm not sure. I wouldn't expect the guy to buy me a drink, but if I got there first I'd wait for him to arrive before ordering.
That was my line of thinking. I'd offer to buy my own, but I wouldn't sit there already drinking it waiting for him to arrive. When meeting friends, I wait for them or if they're running late ask if I can order something for them. It just seems like common courtesy to me to wait for the other person to arrive before ordering.
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Originally Posted by ocnjgirl
I would never drive 3 hours for a coffee meet! Honestly I wouldn't meet someone who lives that far away, what is the point?
The more he and I chat, the more I wonder if I'm interested in a LDR. There have been some things that have come up that I'm calling yellow flags but part of it could be cold feet on my part. It's just a bit unnerving that someone I haven't met yet is already asking questions that pertain to situations MUCH further down the road. But I've been out of the dating pool for a long time so perhaps that's normal.
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I suppose if I do this OLD thing again I should get a new photo to include. How does this happen for people? Posed photos are just icky... and I can't recall being in a situation in quite some time where I knew my photo was taken. I suppose it may have happened at an event but I never saw it.
The best first date of my whole life started at a coffee shop.
But we liked each other so much, it progressed to a walk around the capitol building in the moonlight, and ended with shooting pool at a pool hall.
And only one of us liked coffee.
To the op, I see nothing wrong with drinks or coffee - does not mean you have to actually drink coffee. There are other beverages. It's just a laid-back, no pressure environment. And you can leave without having to deal with an entire meal - hell, you can have coffee slurped up in minutes!
That was my line of thinking. I'd offer to buy my own, but I wouldn't sit there already drinking it waiting for him to arrive. When meeting friends, I wait for them or if they're running late ask if I can order something for them. It just seems like common courtesy to me to wait for the other person to arrive before ordering.
I don't want him to think that I expect him to pay for my drink, so it makes sense to me to get my drink when I get there. At most, I've just taken a few sips before he arrives. If he thinks it's rude, too bad! It's just coffee- it's not that serious.
For everybody who states "I love coffee" Or "I hate coffee" .... it's not about the coffee and coffee shops sell other beverages as well
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