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No is the answer for me , not because I'm with somebody now but because there is nobody "I always loved "
The guy you speak about must have been living a lie .... it seems to be common these days, unfortunately
That's exactly how I feel. But he is someone that I have admired, had extremely sincere conversations with about love, commitment, marriage, and he's always been the "one you count on" in the family. It's really just impossible to believe that this has even happened. It still doesn't seem real or possible to me. It's like, he just turned into another person after all these years. I don't know how that happens.
Recently a family member has decided to end his 27 year marriage due to "reconnecting" with his high school sweetheart. Says he never stopped loving her. This is a man that was considered to be the "greatest husband ever", the one that always made grand gestures and spoke often of his devotion and love of his wife and family. So much for that.
That's crazy. I can't imagine leaving someone that I was currently in love with, but I could see it happen in cases where one person settled for another, got bored with them, or is just searching for something missing in their lives that they think they'll find in another person.
That's crazy. I can't imagine leaving someone that I was currently in love with, but I could see it happen in cases where one person settled for another, got bored with them, or is just searching for something missing in their lives that they think they'll find in another person.
I don't believe for minute that he "settled". They were completely and totally in love, adored each other. No one that knows this couple would ever believe such a thing was possible. Two kids still in the house, one still on high school. Both with great jobs, no money worries. I almost felt that they were so "successful" (for lack of a better word) in their lives that they were a sometimes a little removed from the average joes. It's just insane.
I had the chance to do that very same thing with my childhood sweetheart, before I married my present wife. I still married her and I'm not sorry. I knew the women I was going to marry, I didn't really know who the woman was, that had been my childhood sweetheart.
I don't believe for minute that he "settled". They were completely and totally in love, adored each other. No one that knows this couple would ever believe such a thing was possible. Two kids still in the house, one still on high school. Both with great jobs, no money worries. I almost felt that they were so "successful" (for lack of a better word) in their lives that they were a sometimes a little removed from the average joes. It's just insane.
I know how confusing and disconcerting something like this can be for the people watching it happen to a couple they love and admire.
The thing is, NO ONE but the 2 people involved in a marriage ever really know what is going on in that marriage.
Things may look wonderful and great from the outside looking in, but to the people going through it there can be an entirely different perspective.
I think when someone with a conscience and integrity realizes they've made a mistake in choosing a partner, but that partner hasn't really "done" anything to deserve what leaving them would involve (heartbreat, financial ruin, upheaval ect), the unhappy person just redoubles their efforts to make things A-Ok. It's kind of like "fake it till you make it".
And some people DO make it. Over time they overcome their unhappiness and even actually fall more in love with their spouse.
But other times, they are treading water and just trying to do the right thing for their kids especially.
You take a person like that and re-introduce the past "love of their life" to them and then it's like combustion.
Sorry you are going through this in your family!
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This is a man that was considered to be the "greatest husband ever", the one that always made grand gestures and spoke often of his devotion and love of his wife and family. So much for that. 
