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Most of the women I know that have been approached didn't typically have to do anything.
They just smile and wave, which pretty much gave the guys the "go". It is pretty much the same for me. I am pretty shy myself so I have never actually approached a guy, if anything I am kind of evasive when guys approach me. I will smile and I can actually carry on a conversation. Most of the time when a guy and I would start talking it would always be initiated through group talks with friends.
Just be friendly and relax. If you are all uptight and nervous it could get awkward. If you see someone staring at you, just smile, or just approach the and say hi. The worst they can do is walk away.
okay. i been having a plain look on my face and trying to put more emotion into they just don't seem to return it. one guy did but i don't see him anymore. sometimes i see them looking but they don't say anything. it's very frustrating.
dont be afraid to flirt a little. when you catch a guy looking at you, smile and give him a little wave. if there is a guy that interests you, but you cant catch his eye for some reason, buy him a drink, the server will tell him who the drink is from, and point you out.
sometimes women give off a vibe of being unapproachable, and that is sad because most women want to be approached. too bad you are in jersy, because if i saw you in a bar here in tucson, i would very likely approach you even if just to say hi, and let you play the red baron and shoot me down.
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Alright - since the OP seems to be honestly looking for some help - I'll be as honest as I can.
Sometimes it really does just come down to looks. Some men see something they like and they go after it - no matter if you are smiling, making eye contact, or if you have even looked their way. But your chances of getting men to notice you will greatly increase if you appear more open and friendly. Smile. Be relaxed. Don't just act like you are having a good time - HAVE a good time. Be friendly. Be your best self.
Part of the reason I used to get asked out all the time when I worked at the front desk at the gym was because I interacted with everyone - the members and the employees. I was always cheerful and friendly. I got to know most of our regular members by their first names and would have conversations with quite a few of them - young, old, men, women. Yes, there were some men that hit on me with out getting to know me at all but most of the men hit on me after talking to me at least a little bit.
If you are in a setting like a bar or something - same thing applies. Smile. Laugh. Enjoy yourself. Make eye contact with people around you. Be friendly.
Think of it this way - what kind of person would make you want to go over and talk to them? Probably not someone that looks cold or intimidating.
I am 34 and a male only approach me once in life. I was looking at frozen foods earlier this year in the grocery store. Twice if you count a very drunk guy at a bar.
Eh. How are we defining approach? If a random guy says "hi" or tries to start a conversation or if he flirts/asks you out? I rarely get approached in real life and never by anyone who I'd actually want to date, but I have a much easier time meeting guys online so I'm not worried about it.
Just because men approach those women it isn't always a good thing. Also just because a women gets a lot of attention from many different guys doesn't mean she's a good woman.
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