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I am 34 and a male only approach me once in life. I was looking at frozen foods earlier this year in the grocery store. Twice if you count a very drunk guy at a bar.
If you are having trouble getting guys to approach, I'll let you in on a secret. It works on me.
Make the guy feel wanted. A lot of women that I talk to have given me the impression that they wanted me to talk to them.
However, you do it, it depends. If you want any guy to approach you other than the creeps, then you have to somehow give off the vibe that you want the guy to approach.
A decent man isn't going to approach a woman he figures does not want to be bothered because he thinks about how he would feel if someone imposed on his space and time.
If you are having trouble getting guys to approach, I'll let you in on a secret. It works on me.
Make the guy feel wanted. A lot of women that I talk to have given me the impression that they wanted me to talk to them.
However, you do it, it depends. If you want any guy to approach you other than the creeps, then you have to somehow give off the vibe that you want the guy to approach.
A decent man isn't going to approach a woman he figures does not want to be bothered because he thinks about how he would feel if someone imposed on his space and time.
everyone keep saying give off a vibe, Idon't know how to do that though. Sometimes they ignore me, refuse to make eye contact and sometimes they don't smile back. It all just makes me feel bad.
everyone keep saying give off a vibe, Idon't know how to do that though. Sometimes they ignore me, refuse to make eye contact and sometimes they don't smile back. It all just makes me feel bad.
If you smile and act friendly, believe me it goes a long way. That's something I know I have to work on. But seriously. Think of funny TV moments while walking around doing what you do. You'll be smiling all day.
everyone keep saying give off a vibe, Idon't know how to do that though. Sometimes they ignore me, refuse to make eye contact and sometimes they don't smile back. It all just makes me feel bad.
Then you are probably in a bad area.
Hey, I can tell you by experience that there are some parts of town and some areas where people are just stuck up.
Okay, if you see a guy you are interested in, make it clear to him. You don't have to say it. For instance, with me. There's often a lady who didn't just smile at me once. But every time she saw me, she kept smiling at me. (it could be a few times within the hour) She kept paying me attention. (Of course, I smiled back, don't do this to guys who are not receptive)
Eventually, I got the hint and we are now close friends... at least.
(That's how it worked on me, but then I'm a weirdo.)
Us guys are dense, possibly due to a lot of apprehension that we have, which admittedly is pretty much irrational at spots. Somehow, some of us have been made to believe that if we approached, we could get worse than a rejection. The woman we approach could probably make a scene and cause a lot of problems for the guy who approaches. (Again, this is irrational and it rarely happens, but I picked this example up from the CD forums so I'm speaking CD language)
The thing with us guys is that a lot of us (single guys) feel unwanted. So, other than approaching the man, yourself. If you see a man that you are attracted to, allow yourself to be attracted. Pay him attention, if he is receptive, pay him more attention. A lot of us are not going to approach unless, we get the impression that our approach would be appreciated.
NOw, admittedly, that is the hard part because we suck at reading signals.
Then again, that is just what works on me. I can't speak for any other guys.
If you are at the grocery store (or anywhere) smile at people, make small talk and jokes, and look happy and that attracts people, of which single men are a subset. When you look like you are having fun, people want to be a part of that, plus guys will feel more comfortable approaching you and will be less fearful of getting a rude rejection.
Even if a guy doesn't ask you out you have had more fun during your day and brought some levity and joy to others.
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