Should the less sexually experienced partner have freedom to cheat?

[~HecateWhisperCat~]

Originally Posted by healthy_

Imagine a virgin marrying their first partner. They will definitely feel cheated that their husband/wife had more sexual experience. Do you think such a person should be allowed to catch up with their spouse by having other relationships? Or do you think they should make up in some other way, e.g. postpone marriage for later?

I think each couple needs to determine what they few ass acceptable in their marriage. I don't believe that just because one person decided to settle down with one person who had experiences when they have none means they should have the right to hump people outside of the marriage.

[lovesMountains]

Originally Posted by Dewdrop93

No. The experienced person should go to a clinic and have their experience removed. It's only fair.

These guys crack me up, great response

[RogersParkGuy]

Originally Posted by healthy_

No, of course not. I mean if their partner agrees to have an open relationship.

If their partner agrees, of course. Frankly, I think if people could stop demanding strict monogamy form their partners, we'd all be happier.

[monumentus]

Originally Posted by healthy_

They will definitely feel cheated that their husband/wife had more sexual experience.

There is no "definitely" here at all actually. Some people might feel that way - but many also do not.

Originally Posted by healthy_

Do you think such a person should be allowed to catch up with their spouse by having other relationships?

They "should" not be allowed do so no. They "should" be allowed talk it over with their partner and decide as adults between them if this will be allowed in the relationship or not.

My current partners for example have less experience than me. One of them in fact has only ever been sexually with me.

They are both highly desireable - and going through what many people would suggest is the "desirable" age range. I actually brought this up with them and suggested that if further experience is something they would be interested in then to let me know and I would be open to discussing allowing it and establishing boundries. But that in principle I would be open to the idea of them widening their experience.

Neither of them has - thus far - expressed any interest in actually doing so - though they were of course grateful at my openness to discussing it and communicating on the subject.

[Magnatomicflux]

Originally Posted by 2mares

In my best Groucho Marx voice, "That's the Most Ridiculous Thing I've Ever Heard."

Originally Posted by duster1979

In my best Hank Hill voice, "That's just asinine."

In my best Tom Anderson (Beavis& Butthead neighbour) voice, "Aren't you that boy who's been... whackin' off in m' tool shed?"

[cwamjn]

Originally Posted by RogersParkGuy

If their partner agrees, of course. Frankly, I think if people could stop demanding strict monogamy form their partners, we'd all be happier.

I purpose we support a one month limit on going steady
I think It will keep people more able to deal with weird situations
And get to know more people
I think if you're ready to go out with Johnny
Now's the time to tell him about your one month limit
He wont mind he'll appreciate your fresh look on dating
And once you've dated someone else you can date him again
I'm sure he'll like it
Everyone will appreciate it
You're so novel what a good idea