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Why couldn't you have sex with someone roughly your own attractiveness?
In answer to your question, OP, no I don't think it's wrong. However, it's most certainly NOT what you should do in your situation, and you will wind up with hurt feelings.
Well, she just likes what she likes. But sadly feels those men are out or her league.
Some ugly or average people love someone hot and attractive. But sadly, they weren't blessed with the looks to make the hot ones flock toward them. And they don't wanna just settle for anything just because they can get it.
My dating life doesn't exist. The only guys to show interest in me were old men, creepy old men, bums, and/or thug wannabes. So, apparently I could have had those guys. But I sure as heck didn't want them lol
So, if your options aren't that good, and/or you were cursed with ugly, I Guess you could pay for companionship. Either that, or just settle.
Me, I would probably stay single. I couldn't see myself paying for an escort, or just taking what I could get easily. But who knows. I can't predict the future. I may very well end up with an escort. But I doubt it.
Well, she just likes what she likes. But sadly feels those men are out or her league.
Some ugly or average people love someone hot and attractive. But sadly, they weren't blessed with the looks to make the hot ones flock toward them. And they don't wanna just settle for anything just because they can get it.
My dating life doesn't exist. The only guys to show interest in me were old men, creepy old men, bums, and/or thug wannabes. So, apparently I could have had those guys. But I sure as heck didn't want them lol
Gah...the entitlement and helpless victimhood in that post is hard to stomach. Seriously.
Let's all shed a tear for the ugly people who just can't be bothered to settle for average. They're truly the least fortunate among us.
Gah...the entitlement and helpless victimhood in that post is hard to stomach. Seriously.
Entitlement means you think you deserve something automatically. Like Eliot Rodger. I never said I should get what I want no matter what. Just you're saying people should just settle for what they can get, and that sounds sad. Why settle for less just because it's easy?
Like being gay. It's hard, and there's still discrimination against those that are gay. and many that are talk all the time about the hardships, and abuse they face. But you wouldn't just tell them "Ok, be straight then, it's easier." That isn't what they're attracted to, and you can't help that. Even though "being straight" would automatically rid them of their discrimination, and out-cast status from family, and being beaten as some have been.
So, just settling is sad. Now, if one genuinely wants an escort, and are comfortable, then that'll work for them rather than try to get serious and shack with someone simply because that's what was available. But I am including personality as well. They may be hot, but their personality is crappy. But you settle for them because you could get them.
Like a girl I know. She's a hot woman, with a hot guy. but he has a girlfriend already, who she says is ugly, she's his mistress, and she's been with him 1 year despite the fact he treats her like trash. She's settling. She can get him, and is already sleeping with him, and he's hot. But apparently, she doesn't think she'll get better. because surely there's another hot man that will have sex with her somewhere around. And she says she's a catch. So, if that's true, it really shouldn't be that hard. But apparently, she's not as confident as she acts.
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Entitlement means you think you deserve something automatically. Like Eliot Rodger. I never said I should get what I want no matter what. Just you're saying people should just settle for what they can get, and that sounds sad. Why settle for less just because it's easy?
Like being gay. It's hard, and there's still discrimination against those that are gay. and many that are talk all the time about the hardships, and abuse they face. But you wouldn't just tell them "Ok, be straight then, it's easier." That isn't what they're attracted to, and you can't help that. Even though "being straight" would automatically rid them of their discrimination, and out-cast status from family, and being beaten as some have been.
So, just settling is sad. Now, if one genuinely wants an escort, and are comfortable, then that'll work for them rather than try to get serious and shack with someone simply because that's what was available. But I am including personality as well. They may be hot, but their personality is crappy. But you settle for them because you could get them.
See, you just did it again there. You said "settle for what they can get." Well, if it's what they can get, they're not really settling, are they? You also said "why should they settle for less?" Again, if it's what they can get, it's not really less, is it? It's actually the best they can do.
So in two different places, you said the best they can do is just not good enough, it's settling for less. They deserve more.
Gah...the entitlement and helpless victimhood in that post is hard to stomach. Seriously.
Let's all shed a tear for the ugly people who just can't be bothered to settle for average. They're truly the least fortunate among us.
Dude, you didn't read her post. She said she doesn't get approached by "average". She doesn't have that option. Some women would definitely be down with being approached by "average", but it doesn't happen. Even if they do the approaching, Mr. Average doesn't respond. That's a valid concern.
See, you just did it again there. You said "settle for what they can get." Well, if it's what they can get, they're not really settling, are they? You also said "why should they settle for less?" Again, if it's what they can get, it's not really less, is it? It's actually the best they can do.
So in two different places, you said the best they can do is just not good enough, it's settling for less. They deserve more.
That's the definition of entitlement, baby.
But, what they can get is not what they're attracted to. So, they should have a relationship with no real feeling, or attractiveness simply because the other person would take them?
I am never gonna see settling as good if you do not like the person, and/or aren't attracted to them.
Everyone wants someone they're attracted to. So, hell, everyone is entitled in that case. Do you know anyone that goes out to find people they aren't attracted to just to be matched up?
Now, maybe a date. But lets say their personality isn't what you're attracted to either? Should you still take them because you can?
And you assume average. Some don't even get that. They get no-good. be it in looks, or personality.
So some people can't, and shouldn't take what they can get.
I could have me a nice thug with gold teeth, chains who was 23 and still in HS if I wanted. But I didn't want him, and asked that he stop speaking to me.
I could have had a dirty bum that had no job, car, hygiene and rode a bike all day. Again, not what I wanted, and not average. That was no-good.
And another guy that came off as a pervert, or total socially inept person.
Does someone like these guys offer a promising relationship?
None of those are average. So your "take what you can get" advice is horrible in case of some people, because not everyone has average options.
I could be fine with an average guy. Doesn't need to be Will Smith, or Brad Pitt. But I am not gonna take a thug, or an old bum just because they show interest.
Last edited by HappyRain; 06-16-2014 at 07:38 PM..
Many times on here it's been suggested that men should just go to the backpage or get a hooker. Is it okay then for single women to seek out male escorts for the same thing? Is it as easy? I can't say I haven't considered this option in the past since I can't meet 'regular' men any other ways.
I think it's ok. I don't know much (if anything) about male escorts, but I would think that most of them service other men. Of course there was that one scene in "My Own Private Idaho" where the rich older woman hired several male escorts. I also saw some skinemax movie about a male escort a long time ago, and that was pretty good.
I didn't vote, because it would not be ok for me but I am not one to judge what others do.
I just wonder if there is a way to be in touch with people who understand you and just don't judge you. Maybe someone more like your personality type.
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