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I understand the concept of love, but when it comes to being in love, it gets a little fuzzy for me.
I notice a lot of married people saying they chose to love their spouses being that love is a choice, an action, not a feeling, although feelings can arise when loving a significant other.
Does being in love simply mean seeing yourself with someone for the rest of your life and nothing more or is it deeper than that?
When you feel like you're not complete till your back together.
You think about them constantly.
It's a feeling you have that never goes away. Something that continues to grow over time and experiences together. Little things and places will start reminding you of them.
When you have a funny story or news that you want to share it makes you wish you were with that someone in order to share it with them.
I understand the concept of love, but when it comes to being in love, it gets a little fuzzy for me.
I notice a lot of married people saying they chose to love their spouses being that love is a choice, an action, not a feeling, although feelings can arise when loving a significant other.
Does being in love simply mean seeing yourself with someone for the rest of your life and nothing more or is it deeper than that?
Some people have a practical approach to love like arranged marriages. There is a strong sense of duty, loyalty and commitment.
Some people have more of a romantic approach to love, which can start out first as lust, leading to practical love.
Being in love implies a general feeling of love, devotion, and adoration for the person we are with.
For me, being "in love" with someone means that I want to spend my time with him. I don't get tired of seeing his face, holding his hand, or kissing him. I fell out of love with my husband. I was always in love with my SO.
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Originally Posted by NilaJones
I am old, but I think maybe I have never felt the kind of love people are talking about, here.
I know the feeling of being madly, passionately in love at the beginning, thinking the person is just the cat's pajamas. And for me, that has always transitioned into the kind of love I feel for my family and my close friends and my animals (which is like what Starfishkey describes).
Is there really a third kind?
Yes
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Originally Posted by lovesMountains
Sadly, I know many women who love their husbands but are no longer "in love" with them.
I understand the concept of love, but when it comes to being in love, it gets a little fuzzy for me.
I notice a lot of married people saying they chose to love their spouses being that love is a choice, an action, not a feeling, although feelings can arise when loving a significant other.
Yes I believe in love and I also believe that love is a choice, a decision, true feelings can arise.
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Originally Posted by KeraKera
Does being in love simply mean seeing yourself with someone for the rest of your life and nothing more or is it deeper than that?
No, not necessarily. One can be in love and not be with that person for their lifetime, it's possible surely. It is not restricted to just seeing yourself with the one you love for the rest of your life, I would say that might be just one of the things that happens, but it's not like that is the only one, which proves that you are in love with that person.
Being in love is much deeper than that, in my view it's like you know you can't spend you life with the one you love for whatever reasons but your love for that person will never diminish or go away, no distance can reduce that love that you have and hence this is also called being in love with the significant other.
When even without their presence, you can still feel their life force everyday when you wake up. . . .
And regardless of how much pain and betrayal you might still feel, you hold on to the hope of a return at some point in the future.
It is not rationall or logical. It is not supposed to be. True romantic love has similar symptoms as mental illness and at it's core, being 'in love' distorts reality - it has to, since it would be impossible to truly love someone as much as one does when being 'in love' if they saw them for who they really were.
As a man, you can physically/sexually be with other women, but only really want one. The one you love and all of the other women are just poor substitutes for the only one you ever really wanted.
Being 'in love' is wanting and adoring someone not in despite of her faults and imperfections but also because of them.
A long time ago, in a galaxy far, far away - the Sky-O was once 'in love'. I have known love and as a result, I have known pain. An eternal pain that haunts me every day I am alive and it is almost a curse.
There was and will always be only one. . . .
My Last Rose of Summer.
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