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One can no more "just move" from Holland to the US than to Holland from the US. There's the small matter of immigration laws.
Under the best of circumstances, it takes a very brave and resourceful person to make such a move. She doesn't strike me as very brave or resourceful.
Finally, while she doesn't strike me as the average dutch woman, neither of them probably have any idea how different their cultures and norms are and what they will face in a mixed-culture relationship. Northern Europeans and Americans look alike (almost), but that's it.
Well I am mix too my parents still together. How ever the culture what I think how much they want each other. By the way she is not Dutch She is an American grow up in England and move to NL ages ago with her job at International Justice house in The Hague. She is financially and mentally strong person.
It just so happens in this case your friend is a woman. Had you said he was a man, I would have said exactly the same thing. He has children and he should be putting them first before anything.
Thank you for your comment in my view some people know how to balance between love and kids. And Leena is that kind even though she is nervous.
Worst things happen every where. In that sens not only in Florida all over the world. In this life circle is she has to face something horrible that she will face even if she lives in a tower house with all security. But the Mr Florida is coming to NL for 6 months. (I have up dated the OP). From that period they will decide if they can build up something together.Other wise they will see from there. I am not a person who push negativity to a person who wants a change in their lives. That is not what I learned from my parents. I will be there for her and support her as best I can. But in a way she wont get in to a trouble. Not all the step parents are same. And not all the step fathers are same. In the sens of sick perverted types not only men woman too. It can happen to single fathers too.
Heaven does not need to help her children. She is there for kids. What is wrong if a single mom think about love???? Only men suppose being loved ? Well Mr Florida is not from forces. And he is well rule obeyed person.
IF some one does not trust some one love how ever at least a friend ship wont start between people. Thank you for your comment. Let see what happens when Mr Florida comes to live here. Fingers crossed!
You are bringing this argument to the table when no one EVER said women are not allowed to love again.
What I am saying is that she needs to be very, VERY cautious of this man's intentions. As others have ALSO pointed out.
My father was a single father raising 2 daughters all by himself. He did get a chance to meet a really great woman and remarry her. And, unfortunately, she passed 3 yrs later after a long battle with cancer. My father remained single and unattached for the next 10 years after that BECAUSE of his daughters. That was a choice that he made because he felt it was in OUR best interest, certainly not always in his best interest. He remarried again after I was out of high school. I know of several single dads right now, scattered across the nation (USA), that are also CHOOSING to not get mixed up with women while they raise their children because they feel that is best for their families at this time in their lives.
Yes, predators exist in both genders. However, women are more vulnerable in most cases because of the strong "need" to be in a relationship. All I am suggesting, as another single mother and full time parent, is that she is extremely careful with her decisions that will affect the lives of her children, and to not make these decisions with the 'rose colored glasses' of lust blocking her otherwise clear sight.
Sorry, up and moving kids when you've only met the guy twice? No way in..... heck. I don't care how much time you skype, text and talk. This seems insanely irresponsible. Which is ok when you can only hurt yourself, but this could hurt the kids.
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Sorry, up and moving kids when you've only met the guy twice? No way in..... heck. I don't care how much time you skype, text and talk. This seems insanely irresponsible. Which is ok when you can only hurt yourself, but this could hurt the kids.
Agree with you! But things turning in a better way. Guy is moving to NL for 6 months. Hope could work out in a best way.
You are bringing this argument to the table when no one EVER said women are not allowed to love again.
What I am saying is that she needs to be very, VERY cautious of this man's intentions. As others have ALSO pointed out.
My father was a single father raising 2 daughters all by himself. He did get a chance to meet a really great woman and remarry her. And, unfortunately, she passed 3 yrs later after a long battle with cancer. My father remained single and unattached for the next 10 years after that BECAUSE of his daughters. That was a choice that he made because he felt it was in OUR best interest, certainly not always in his best interest. He remarried again after I was out of high school. I know of several single dads right now, scattered across the nation (USA), that are also CHOOSING to not get mixed up with women while they raise their children because they feel that is best for their families at this time in their lives.
Yes, predators exist in both genders. However, women are more vulnerable in most cases because of the strong "need" to be in a relationship. All I am suggesting, as another single mother and full time parent, is that she is extremely careful with her decisions that will affect the lives of her children, and to not make these decisions with the 'rose colored glasses' of lust blocking her otherwise clear sight.
Thank you for your comment hope you have good Sunday! Every one has their own views about woman -men and love and life. I cannot make a comment about what your father did. Some times he might be regretting now days that he did like that, that is how life is always. Do things and later regret. I am quiet not sure if you have read the updated OP my friend no need to move her friend who she met is moving in to her. And he is preparing everything from there for 6 months move. After that they will see from there what to do.
Your friend loves the idea of this man but she does not know him.
Florida, USA is not as nice a place as most people think. People romanticize it in the same way they romanticize their long distance lovers. It's not based on day to day reality.
Your friend is a successful professional woman with virtually everything strongly and comfortably centered in the EU. She shouldn't take that for granted just because she's in love with a man in the US.
They should end things now instead of wasting more time on a relationship that will almost certainly end badly.
Your friend loves the idea of this man but she does not know him.
Florida, USA is not as nice a place as most people think. People romanticize it in the same way they romanticize their long distance lovers. It's not based on day to day reality.
Your friend is a successful professional woman with virtually everything strongly and comfortably centered in the EU. She shouldn't take that for granted just because she's in love with a man in the US.
They should end things now instead of wasting more time on a relationship that will almost certainly end badly.
The man from USA is coming to her. So they will decide after words if they want to carry on or not. Moving to USA is out of the scene at the moment because after she let him know how she feels about moving to USA he decide to come to her for some time. Thank you for your comment. I like your status "secret agent"
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She is an American grow up in England and move to NL ages ago with her job at International Justice house in The Hague. She is financially and mentally strong person.
