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Not necessarily. When I do it, it means I want to watch a movie and make out.
I LOVE this comment. This is the first thought that comes to my mind if I invite someone to my apartment to "watch" a movie. I at least want to makeout with the person and anything else that happens is a bonus. I've only had one woman who came over that didn't have interest in making out at all.
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I LOVE this comment. This is the first thought that comes to my mind if I invite someone to my apartment to "watch" a movie. I at least want to makeout with the person and anything else that happens is a bonus. I've only had one woman who came over that didn't have interest in making out at all.
This is all cool. But seriously, how many times since you've become an adult does someone come over and you just make out?
I can't recall that happening in a decade or more.
This is all cool. But seriously, how many times since you've become an adult does someone come over and you just make out?
I can't recall that happening in a decade or more.
Like I said, only one didn't want to make out at all. In my experience, the women said they didn't plan for it to escalate, but they sure didn't pump the brakes during the process. They went in with no expectations as well. The moment you start planning out the outcome is the moment it blows up in your face.
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Like I said, only one didn't want to make out at all. In my experience, the women said they didn't plan for it to escalate, but they sure didn't pump the brakes during the process. They went in with no expectations as well. The moment you start planning out the outcome is the moment it blows up in your face.
If its a new person without a history, yeah, I agree with this. Just go with the flow, and may it flow flow flow.
I have a question, maybe it's a dumb one, but when a woman living alone invites her date to come inside...does she wants sex involved?
What do you think?
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Maybe things didn't work out. Are you obligated to have sex because you are at your home?
What if during dinner you discussed some really cool artifact that you have at your home and she wants to see it?
I can think of many reasons a woman might come to your place.
It's still early and I just had my coffee so shall we?
The above in bold suggests that there was a date and after the date, she invites him over. Clearly THERE IS SOME ATTRACTION. Whatever happens beyond that isn't part of what my question to you was about. Remember, we are in the context of a date, not a business date, not a meeting, but a date and its evolution. Don't reach for things. It was a question regarding your statement below
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Let's say that a woman you are not attracted to enters your home. Does it mean you have to have sex with her?
That threw me off because inviting someone into your place of habitat after you have had a date means you ARE ATTRACTED. But now that we cleared that up, you see my point. It's all good. It happens.
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Shock horror - it might actually be - wait for this as it is a revelation - the people might actually enjoy each others company without sex having to come into it.
I think you are just are at bat swinging without an actual bat. What does that have to do with me asking why would someone invite a date to their home that they are not attracted to? Sure we can start making up reasons but its a date. Do you know the positive evolution of a date? It's not to one day become business partners although, that may be along the lines of your thinking. Don't start pulling straws just to suit your disconnection to reality.
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The above in bold suggests that there was a date and after the date, she invites him over. Clearly THERE IS SOME ATTRACTION.
The latter does not automatically follow from the former. Thats the bit you appear to be just making up. Don't reach for things.
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That threw me off because inviting someone into your place of habitat after you have had a date means you ARE ATTRACTED.
No. It does not. Not always. Inviting them into your house means nothing more than you want them in your house. Anything else you are adding to that - you are doing so off the back of fantasy. But now that we cleared that up, you see my point.
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I think you are just are at bat swinging without an actual bat. What does that have to do with me asking why would someone invite a date to their home that they are not attracted to?
Pointless references to bats notwithstanding - it has everything to do with it. Some people go on dates - find the other person not to be sexually attractive - but they they enjoy their company. The inviting them into the home is a way to continue being in that company.
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Sure we can start making up reasons but its a date.
Dates are not computer transistors with a 0 and 1 state. They do not have to end up in sex and relationship - or a parting of ways. They can result in friendships too. So yet again my answer is relevant. People invite other people into their house - even after dates - merely because they find they enjoy that persons company and wish to prolong the experience.
These 0/1 and Black/White rules you keep trying to apply to human interactions and human relationships might look good on paper to you all the time - but they do not map onto reality at all. Don't start pulling straws just to suit your disconnection to reality.
I am convinced that there are some things in this world that cannot be explained by people who have experienced them to people who have not.
Sometimes, you just need to learn for yourself. This is one of those times.
Seriously. It really is getting to the point on this forum where people sound like they want some kind of magic handbook of translation, when really, there are so many things that cannot be taught, and so many things that rely on body language, voice inflection, context, and everything else. It's called "reading people," and the only way you become good at it is to get off the bleepin' computer and go out and LIVE.
Doesn't always necessarily mean that, but at the same time, she cant fault the man for thinking she does.
If I'm in that situation, I just go with the flow. If she gives me the signs and green light I'll take it. If she's sitting on the other sofa and keeping to herself then it shows she just wanted company.
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