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Originally Posted by lucky4life
A lot of what makes dating so difficult these days is that attitude. I get that you wouldn't date someone living in poverty, but what about someone that just simply made considerably less than you. I make about 75k and would think nothing of dating a waitress or a teacher that makes half of what I do if she was happy, yet almost all the women I work with are with men that earn as much or more than they do. Times are changing. Younger Women as a collective whole are actually starting to out earn men in the United States. This attitude that a man must out earn his partner is creating a lot of unhappy single people. I see it with the single women I work with all the time (especially if they're not particularly attractive). They want an educated guy that makes as much or more than they do, while the men they're waiting around for go for a more attractive woman because they make a decent living and can. These women end up being bitter because they're not willing to date the blue collar guys that match up with them physically, due to thinking they deserve more financially. I think this is one of the big reasons that there are so many more single people these days. I'm glad that women are starting to get a piece of the pie, but they need to realize what it comes with.
Almost all women I've dated the past ten years make more than I do, but we're in the same general ballpark, with some exceptions. It is somewhat important to be on equal levels so you can live your lives together and do things together. If I made 20k or 30k, I wouldn't be able to go away for long weekends with them, or go skiing, or go out to a decent dinner, etc. That's no fun.
Almost all women I've dated the past ten years make more than I do, but we're in the same general ballpark, with some exceptions. It is somewhat important to be on equal levels so you can live your lives together and do things together. If I made 20k or 30k, I wouldn't be able to go away for long weekends with them, or go skiing, or go out to a decent dinner, etc. That's no fun.
Eh, given a choice between a model that is working as a waitress and a lawyer guess who I'm choosing?
Eh, given a choice between a model that is working as a waitress and a lawyer guess who I'm choosing?
[whichever one is hotter]
Then I hope you're not one of those dudes who ends up complaining about having to pay for everything when your hot girlfriend with no job wants to be taken out to dinner and go on vacations and whatnot.
Location: RI, MA, VT, WI, IL, CA, IN (that one sucked), KY
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Then I hope you're not one of those dudes who ends up complaining about having to pay for everything when your hot girlfriend with no job wants to be taken out to dinner and go on vacations and whatnot.
Beyond that: Good looks are great. I'm not dating someone I'm not attracted to - not going to happen. But how long does "hotness" in itself stand as enough? 30 minutes? 2hrs? 2 dates? Shoot, if we don't have things in common, things to talk about, to learn from each other, etc there is no relationship to have. Most of us meet good looking / hot people everyday that we'd have no interest in dating because there is no connection mentally.
Almost all women I've dated the past ten years make more than I do, but we're in the same general ballpark, with some exceptions. It is somewhat important to be on equal levels so you can live your lives together and do things together. If I made 20k or 30k, I wouldn't be able to go away for long weekends with them, or go skiing, or go out to a decent dinner, etc. That's no fun.
Most men I know don't really care about a woman's income. I've dated women that make as much as me, and I've dated women that have made considerably less than me. At the end of the day, I still paid their way for most things until we were in a LTR, and even then it was never really equal, so what does it really matter lol. I'm sure this isn't the case with all men, but it's pretty common for most.
Then I hope you're not one of those dudes who ends up complaining about having to pay for everything when your hot girlfriend with no job wants to be taken out to dinner and go on vacations and whatnot.
Oh I complain all right, but I'm not about to require that a girl make $XX/year. Besides, even the girls with jobs want you paying for stuff.
Location: RI, MA, VT, WI, IL, CA, IN (that one sucked), KY
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Reality. Who wants to date a lawyer anyway?
I would. I dated a civil rights lawyer. Incredible woman. I've dated several that were lawyers by training but used their law degrees in other fields (tech starts ups, politics, etc).
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Besides, even the girls with jobs want you paying for stuff.
Eh, given a choice between a model that is working as a waitress and a lawyer guess who I'm choosing?
[whichever one is hotter]
And this is the gold standard in dating for 90% of men.
I go by both personality and looks, but I will date the hot waitress over the average looking lawyer 9/10 times. I like attractive women, and from my personal experiences, professional women are far more likely to be ball-busters once they get comfortable because they know they don't need you. A woman that doesn't need a man simply has too many options for her own good. This is why so many of these women are single IMO.
Most of us meet good looking / hot people everyday that we'd have no interest in dating because there is no connection mentally.
Not me.
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