Question about accepting a ride home after a date. (guys, couple, serious)
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OP, the thing to take away from this is that some people will use you to get something they need regardless of how they feel about you. I'm assuming she wasn't interested in you by the end of the date, but you offered her a free ride home and she preferred that over the public transit option. Was she wrong to do that? Not really, because you offered. Did she say 'thanks' at the end of the ride at least? Also, is there a reason you think that she has "ghosted" on you? How long ago was the date? You said you called her, correct? How long ago was that? Could it be possible that she's attending to other matters?
I think you're more upset that she ignored your phone call and appears to have "ghosted" on you. It's a hazard involved with dating. It probably won't be the last time it happens, so you have to decide if it's something you want to deal with in the future.
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I live in a big city where I met this girl for a first date. I drove and she took public transportation. It seemed to go well and I offered to drive her home, which she accepted. Now I don't think I am going to hear back from her. I don't think she should have let me drive her home if she had no intentions of going out with me again. Discuss.
I have to question the street smarts of any woman who accepts a ride home from a first date in 2015. Getting in the car with basically a stranger is not smart, particularly for a woman.
I don't know why she ain't reached out to you, honestly.
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Discuss.
Not sure when this "Discuss" crap started on Internet forums, but it absolutely annoys me. Of course, if you post something here you want people to discuss it. No need to spell it out.
BTW, why does it matter that she accepted a ride from you? Why wouldn't she rather be driven than ride a bus or subway? You think because she accepted the ride she owes you another date or something? Maybe deep down inside you think she owed you sexual favors for the ride, and you're frustrated? Honestly, you sound like a tool, and I'm not surprised she doesn't want to see you again.
I have to question the street smarts of any woman who accepts a ride home from a first date in 2015. Getting in the car with basically a stranger is not smart, particularly for a woman.
I don't know why she ain't reached out to you, honestly.
Why assume we were strangers. We share mutual friends and met on new years eve and many of my first dates involve me pickup the the woman in my car.
I dont think you should be upset she accepted the ride home - but doesn't want a second date. Consider them two separate events.
Next time:
a) make the first date a sunset coffee meet n greet, then you wont feel an iota of guilt she's taking the bus home at 8pm from Starbucks
b) don't offer a ride if you don't want to. She doesnt 'owe you' a goodbye kiss or another date for accepting. A guy have me a ride home in his truck when I had a heavy car battery to carry home from the auto parts store. I certainly didn't give him a goodbye kiss.
I live in a big city where I met this girl for a first date. I drove and she took public transportation. It seemed to go well and I offered to drive her home, which she accepted. Now I don't think I am going to hear back from her. I don't think she should have let me drive her home if she had no intentions of going out with me again. Discuss.
Why not? Maybe she still had not made up her mind yet. Who knows?
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Why not? Maybe she still had not made up her mind yet. Who knows?
She actually JUST texted me. Thanks for your replies everyone (well almost everyone anyways). I still think dating etiquette is a good thing to discuss.
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