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If someone answers "it's complicated" then I can guarantee I don't really want to hear about it....
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Why is it when asking someone, who is interested in dating, about their relationship status, lots of people say... its complicated
BTW: I am not talking about FB status or dating sites status, but face to face conversation with someone trying to date you.
There is nothing complicated IMHO. The simple basic is: married or single. The more elaborate, but still very clear are: separated, divorced, widowed, living with SO (civil union, in a committed relationship), or living in an open relationship, where you AND your SO have agreed to sleep with other people. It's really that simple.
Most of us think that people on dating scene, are free to date. That means they are not married, living with SO, or engaged with someone else. Pretty clear so far.
So, when the "it's complicated" comes from?
For me it means: red flag. It means that you're either in a relationship all by yourself in which your SO doesn't acknowledge you, or that you're involved with someone but are open to cheat.
To me to say "it’s complicated" as for relationship status is the most offensive thing you can do to your SO.
For them it means: something's going on, but I don't want to say what it is, because it's for my benefit.
Or it means: I am not serious about you, but I don't mind to have a little fling on the site.
I am not sincere, I am not free, but I am bored, or unhappy (or whatever) and I want to cheat.
What are your thoughts about the "it's complicated" statement?
The 'ol it's complicated line has to be worse than "married" because they're in a bad relationship, that they won't leave, and want to use you to cheat. At least married people know they have something worth keeping. Just skip over the it's complicated crowd.
The 'ol it's complicated line has to be worse than married because they're in a bad relationship, that they won't leave, and want to use you to cheat. At least married people know they have something worth keeping. Just skip over the it's complicated crowd.
Oh, I KNOW that! And it's not really about me, but an example and situations I hear often from other people.
They seem to be "confused" but I call it gullible
OK, then they should try to work on their suffering relationship, not flirting and try to date other people.
What currently separated means? That's wishy-washy. That's not a honest answer when trying to date others. That's an uncertain status, and a red flag.
You get separated, then divorced and you are done. Or you are still trying to fix that relationship, then you should focus on that - not flirting and trying to get dates.
Separated means to me - person is currently legally married but is no longer living with their spouse (for any reason other than illness, work or school), and have not obtained a divorce. Those who live with a common-law partner are not included in this category.
I don't like it, and would not get involved till divorce is final. Way too much drama.
True they should elaborate more.For instance the divorce was final 3 months ago.
I used that phrase about a month ago because a lady I know of asked if I was single...........I had already moved out but my ex wife hadn't been served with divorce papers yet..........I said complicated and then told her I am recently separated.
Part of the reason I said it was it caught me off guard and I am not ready to date yet.
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