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It really depends on the situation. I'll give a hug on the first date if I really like her and let her know that I'm really interested in seeing her again.
Some girls, its been the first night. Those never lasted.
Others, 2-3 dates. Personally, I try to wait as long as possible to make sure she is the right one.
Are you in high school? Sex changes things. It is better to get to know someone before hopping into the back of a car or into bed with them right away. If that is all you are after and the woman feels the same way there is no harm done, because she probably thinks no more of you than you do her on an emotional level. However, if you come across to a woman as being interested in her and putting on some kind of "act" just to get to the "act", then you may possibly lead someone on and cause them to think you are genuinely interested in them as a person first, not just a sex object.
Thank you for your posting as a reminder to me of what I do not want in a man.
Ive seen this discussed on so many forums. kinda surprised to not see a thread here in the first 3 pages or so.
Not that there is a cold hard fast timeline, and yes some situations are different...byt how long do you wait before you realize it aint gonna happen,a nd either enter friend zone or move on?
For me, it was 3 dates. If the girl wasn't willing to kiss me good night, I took that as an indicator and I was done after first date. But by the 3rd date, if hanky panky wasn't happening I was done.
What about you???
If you had an 18-yo daughter, how many dates would you expect her to go on before she would allow hanky-pankying done to her?
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You see, guys, this thread is EXACTLY why I am not interested in dating.
Everyone in this thread seems to think that the evolution of a relationship should go like this:
complete stranger
some arbitrary number of romantic dates, no contact in between
sex
LTR followed by marriage/kids if they are interested
Here is how I think it should be:
stranger
platonic acquaintance
platonic friends for months or years
FWB
LTR followed by marriage/kids if you want that
See the problem you guys are having is that you are debating how many times you should meet someone who is a stranger before you have sex with them. I don't like that idea. I would prefer to get to know them as friends, and become close friends, and then have sex with my close friend. And if we continue to do it then we're in a long term relationship.
That way you never have this stuff about "have I gone on enough dates to have sex with this person?". You should already know them if you are spending time for romantic purposes! They shouldn't' be a stranger!I don't see how it can be meaningful if you're sleeping with someone you just met three dates ago and have no platonic history with them at all.
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I think sex should be an expression of love and intimacy between two or more people who love each other and care about other, and I don't see how that is established after having met someone a couple times with no contact in between.
I know that to explain who I am and what my history is and how I feel about things and how I experience life would take a lot more than 2 or 3 dates.
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