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Intelligence is just part of the equation. No one is saying that a nutty professor look-a-like is scooping up all the hottest women in the bar simply because he can recite the periodic table forward and backward. You still need some basic social skills, a decent amount of personal hygiene, and look the type that they are looking for. Some women are attracted to bodybuilders, some to hipsters, some to suit wearing professionals. Just like guys have different tastes in women.
Let me ask you this...if given the choice, you meet two women who are equal on all counts, except one is educated and intelligent and the other thinks that the Theory of Evolution is a new soap opera. Which one do you think you'd find more attractive?
I think women genuinely want intelligent men, but I also think it's a socially safe characteristic for a woman to mention. Kind of like sense of humor. I also think women like passion as much or more than book bred intelligence. Passion may be what some women mean when they say intelligent, or at least a man's intelligence may be best seen as he goes on about something he's passionate about.
Every woman is really different in general. I manage to date woman that were way out of my league we had nothing in common and we still got along well even thou we had nothing in common it was good for a while...
All these post say something different but keep in MIND EVERY GIRL is Different and I Mean EVERY......
In my experience. It depends who you meet
Ask any woman to describe the type of guy she's attracted to, and inevitably the word "intelligent" will be in the mix. However, I see no evidence of this playing out in real life. Some of the most unintelligent guys I know are able to score high-caliber women, and on the other hand the super intelligent guys I know struggle with women. I know geniuses who can't get a date to save their life.
Profile of the typical guy my age who does well with women:
Moderate to good looks
Confident (necessarily overconfident, big talker)
Showy: lives paycheck-to-paycheck but has a nice apartment, nice car, goes on lots of trips, goes out to a lot of bars/clubs
Profile of the typical intelligent guy my age:
Bad to decent looks
Unconfident, although he should be confident about (good job, good savings, good health)
Has real hobbies
Agreed.
I'm intelligent, but that has never helped me with women.
Being bold and confident definitely make a huge difference.
Despite making good money, I've never owned a nice car or lived in a nice apartment. However, my career does have some status attached to it so I'm sure that has helped me.
Ask any woman to describe the type of guy she's attracted to, and inevitably the word "intelligent" will be in the mix. However, I see no evidence of this playing out in real life. Some of the most unintelligent guys I know are able to score high-caliber women, and on the other hand the super intelligent guys I know struggle with women. I know geniuses who can't get a date to save their life.
Profile of the typical guy my age who does well with women:
Moderate to good looks
Confident (necessarily overconfident, big talker)
Showy: lives paycheck-to-paycheck but has a nice apartment, nice car, goes on lots of trips, goes out to a lot of bars/clubs
Profile of the typical intelligent guy my age:
Bad to decent looks
Unconfident, although he should be confident about (good job, good savings, good health)
Has real hobbies
Welcome to the real world, my friend. Truth is women rarely say what they mean, at least in our society. It's not really their fault, women have learned throughout their evolution that in order to survive, they must remain in good terms with the society they live in (after all, in prehistoric days, a woman who was cast out of her tribe had very poor survival chances), meaning women pay lip service and claim they find attractive whatever the society they live in says they should find attractive.
For instance, ask any woman you meet what's the first thing they look for in a man, I guarantee you 90% of them will answer "a sense of humour". Which, to me, is a joke in and of itself. Pretty much every professional comedian working today has a number where they complain about the fact that comedians like them don't get any. But again, can you really blame women for this? What the **** does a man with a sense of humour bring to the table? What benefit? What do they gain from dating funny guys? The answer is nothing at all, so they don't, but because the society they live in says that's what they should be attracted to, they'll say that's what they're attracted to. Again, it's not really malice, it's a survival tactic they've learned over 1000s of years of evolution.
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I'll never understand women who go for bad boys. I just see it as a recipe for disaster.
I may not be female, but I'll hazard a guess anyway:
It's the female version of guys of similar age who want women with porn-star bodies and model faces but offer little else (well, maybe a home-cooked meal every day but even that is optional). Needless to say, each person of each gender is...well, I won't say necessarily stupid, but certainly lacking in mental and emotional self-discipline to avoid who they know is the wrong type - high on superficial appeal (however they define it) but low on everything else.
Welcome to the real world, my friend. Truth is women rarely say what they mean, at least in our society. It's not really their fault, women have learned throughout their evolution that in order to survive, they must remain in good terms with the society they live in (after all, in prehistoric days, a woman who was cast out of her tribe had very poor survival chances), meaning women pay lip service and claim they find attractive whatever the society they live in says they should find attractive.
For instance, ask any woman you meet what's the first thing they look for in a man, I guarantee you 90% of them will answer "a sense of humour". Which, to me, is a joke in and of itself. Pretty much every professional comedian working today has a number where they complain about the fact that comedians like them don't get any. But again, can you really blame women for this? What the **** does a man with a sense of humour bring to the table? What benefit? What do they gain from dating funny guys? The answer is nothing at all, so they don't, but because the society they live in says that's what they should be attracted to, they'll say that's what they're attracted to. Again, it's not really malice, it's a survival tactic they've learned over 1000s of years of evolution.
It's a skit. Comedians get laid all the time. Trust me. I know a ton of them.
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