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You're not married, and you've yet to even live with each other. You need to be patient and make sure the relationship can handle children. Getting married is NOTHING compared to having children, and you're not even married. Nothing any of us can do or say will prepare you for the life changing event that is having a child. Your relationship with this man is no where near prepared for that. Don't let your age influence your decision. It would be a huge mistake.
Marrying is not even an issue. People dont get married in my culture, i think is a US thing. I dont care about being married. All the couples my age i kbow arent even thinking about getting married, while 95 percent of those couples either had a kid, are pregnant, or are starting to try get pregnant know.
Marriage isnt a thing anymore for people born in the 80s and 90s,its seen as outdated.
Kids, on theother hand... we want them and the clock is ticking...
You're not married, and you've yet to even live with each other. You need to be patient and make sure the relationship can handle children. Getting married is NOTHING compared to having children, and you're not even married. Nothing any of us can do or say will prepare you for the life changing event that is having a child. Your relationship with this man is no where near prepared for that. Don't let your age influence your decision. It would be a huge mistake.
Eh, OP is from Argentina. Different culture, different rules.
Yeah, but we talk kids all the time. "Our kids this, our kids that"they are in the future conversations all the time.
We just didnt set an exact date yet, i wanna drop the bomb to him that it might be sooner than he expects, lol
I guess I just don't see the timing as that much of a "bomb." It's not a decision you can make all on your own, anyway. He has to agree since pregnancy requires two people. I just don't see why having a discussion about the timing is a big deal.
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Marrying is not even an issue. People dont get married in my culture, i think is a US thing. I dont care about being married. All the couples my age i kbow arent even thinking about getting married, while 95 percent of those couples either had a kid, are pregnant, or are starting to try get pregnant know.
Marriage isnt a thing anymore for people born in the 80s and 90s,its seen as outdated.
Kids, on theother hand... we want them and the clock is ticking...
OK, whatever on the marriage, but you don't even live together and are "planning" to live together in the last half of the year. You can't even commit to a date to move in together, so talking children at this point is beyond ludicrous. You have no idea how truly compatible you are with this man at this point. Ten months is nothing. Seriously, good luck to you, because you will need it. Even though you are older, I'm concerned that your maturity level is much too low for a child.
I think it's a good thing he doesn't want to have kids right away. You've only known him 10 months. Wait until you've lived with him for a year, to get to know him even more intimately. If things continue to go smoothly, then you can think about having kids. And for most women, getting pregnant in the mid- to late-30's is all too effortless. I wouldn't worry if I were you.
I guess I just don't see the timing as that much of a "bomb." It's not a decision you can make all on your own, anyway. He has to agree since pregnancy requires two people. I just don't see why having a discussion about the timing is a big deal.
Well, its probably not a big deal but wanted to read experiences about people who have experienced or are experiecing a similar issue, or know something who has.
I know this isnt a thrilling thread like "my husband is cheating on me" or so, i just been readind cd a lot lately and wanted to ask the cd crowd what they think of this thoughts about having kids.
Im a new antie 😄, well, my beautiful gorgeous nephew is now 1 year old and i think since bonding with her, my maternal instincts have escalated quickly
I think it's a good thing he doesn't want to have kids right away. You've only known him 10 months. Wait until you've lived with him for a year, to get to know him even more intimately. If things continue to go smoothly, then you can think about having kids. And for most women, getting pregnant in the mid- to late-30's is all too effortless. I wouldn't worry if I were you.
Ok, this is wise.
Is true we havent been together that long, but things are going so well...i ve been in 2 ltr befoe this: one of 7 years, one of 5 years, no relationship didnt even came close to this one in compatibility, this one just was perfect since the beggining.
But you are right i might be pushing it a bit. I might have baby fever due to my baby nephew and all my friends getting pregnant.
Well, its probably not a big deal but wanted to read experiences about people who have experienced or are experiecing a similar issue, or know something who has.
I know this isnt a thrilling thread like "my husband is cheating on me" or so, i just been readind cd a lot lately and wanted to ask the cd crowd what they think of this thoughts about having kids.
Im a new antie 😄, well, my beautiful gorgeous nephew is now 1 year old and i think since bonding with her, my maternal instincts have escalated quickly
Yeah, don't make a big deal about it, just have the conversation. It isn't a big deal at all, in my opinion. As I've said, my husband and I have revised our timing a bunch of times.
I get it about your nephew. I have a one year old nephew as well and seeing that my sister's life hasn't fallen apart has finally given me enough peace of mind to move forward with having kids.
Yeah, don't make a big deal about it, just have the conversation. It isn't a big deal at all, in my opinion. As I've said, my husband and I have revised our timing a bunch of times.
I get it about your nephew. I have a one year old nephew as well and seeing that my sister's life hasn't fallen apart has finally given me enough peace of mind to move forward with having kids.
Arent 1 year old nephews the most adorable thing?😄
Are you also in your 30s?
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