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No, people usually don't change. I'll just finish with her next time I see her. I'll just say we're not compatible, etc.
After THREE years?! Just as simple as that? Apparently YOU weren't pair-bonded with HER...except for the sex of course. What's the lyric ...before you 'ccuse me, take a look at yourself... It really disgusts me that you can just throw her in the trash because, of course, now she really is just trash to you.
So she has been with you for three years and you are worried about her not being able to bond and have a relationship? No. More like you are a hypocrite and judgmental.
People are human not saints. Like someone said, if she is disease free who the hell cares?
After THREE years?! Just as simple as that? Apparently YOU weren't pair-bonded with HER...except for the sex of course. What's the lyric ...before you 'ccuse me, take a look at yourself... It really disgusts me that you can just throw her in the trash because, of course, now she really is just trash to you.
I don't get why this upsets you so much. Look, some people are compatible, and some aren't. The kindest thing I can do for both of us is to finish with her. That way she can find someone who is suitable for her, and I can be free to find someone who is suitable for me. Think of all the people out there who are together and unfulfilled because they aren't meant to be together, and get some perspective. Three years is quite some time, but compared to a decade or more, it's not that long.
So she has been with you for three years and you are worried about her not being able to bond and have a relationship? No. More like you are a hypocrite and judgmental.
People are human not saints. Like someone said, if she is disease free who the hell cares?
For me, being free of STIs is not the only issue. It would be ridiculous to stay with someone who I don't consider compatible. I have boundaries and I have politely made them clear to her. Assertiveness should be celebrated, not mocked.
I guess it is. Although, it isn't so much the fact that he is bothered by her sexual history, but that he is willing to end a 3 year relationship over it. That discussion should have occurred quite some time ago, if it is that much of an issue.
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Originally Posted by QuestOfTruth
Maybe it is insecure and judgemental to label the OP as such simply for having a different preference to yours.
I guess it is. Although, it isn't so much the fact that he is bothered by her sexual history, but that he is willing to end a 3 year relationship over it. That discussion should have occurred quite some time ago, if it is that much of an issue.
What's wrong with wanting to end it after 3 years? Would it be better to keep it going, knowing that it's completely at odds with what I want? I did ask her some questions at the beginning but her answers were misleading, in light of what she has told me recently. If she had told me honestly from the start, we wouldn't be here now.
This won't be a popular opinion. But I will not date a woman who has slept around a lot. If you think I'm a jerk for that then I don't care. I have standards and I will keep them.
This won't be a popular opinion. But I will not date a woman who has slept around a lot. If you think I'm a jerk for that then I don't care. I have standards and I will keep them.
That's right. Everyone is entitled to their preferences. If someone doesn't share your values, you move on.
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I guess it is. Although, it isn't so much the fact that he is bothered by her sexual history, but that he is willing to end a 3 year relationship over it. That discussion should have occurred quite some time ago, if it is that much of an issue. 