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What would you all think of this of my situation? Would like some insights. I don't know what to think now. Was this waiting all for nothing?
We met during our sophomore year of HS, several weeks before my 16th d-day (now I'm 20). Anyway it was her decision to wait until finishing college, which would have been within 2 yrs from now.
She recently dumped me for no other reason than wanting to see others and how she wasn't feeling the same anymore. Awesome so I wasted all this time only to have this in return. I really thought she was joking and did asked her twice if this was some type of mean joke, but she serious.
I'm very upset and shocked too. I'm not so much into religion myself but I did it for her, saving myself in the process (she met me a virgin too, which I'm still am). I'm mad. I did all this for nothing.
I'm sorry about your situation...but you know what? You're young, and still very young, at that.
So things didn't work out with her and in the end you two didn't have sex...it's not the end of the world. You'll realize that when one love-interest opportunity closes, another will always open..
And how exactly have you "wasted all this time?"
If sex with her was the only thing you wanted, then I can understand how you would say this. But if you loved or cared for her and valued your relationship, then obviously it wasn't wasted time.
You sound hurt and are lashing out., as a result.
Take some time to recooperate, get things into perspective, and to move on with your life. Being angry, bitter, or resentful will only make things worse...
What would you all think of this of my situation? Would like some insights. I don't know what to think now. Was this waiting all for nothing?
We met during our sophomore year of HS, several weeks before my 16th d-day (now I'm 20). Anyway it was her decision to wait until finishing college, which would have been within 2 yrs from now.
She recently dumped me for no other reason than wanting to see others and how she wasn't feeling the same anymore. Awesome so I wasted all this time only to have this in return. I really thought she was joking and did asked her twice if this was some type of mean joke, but she serious.
I'm very upset and shocked too. I'm not so much into religion myself but I did it for her, saving myself in the process (she met me a virgin too, which I'm still am). I'm mad. I did all this for nothing.
That sucks. Take however time you need to process it. In the meantime, do something for yourself.
Your young so take this as a learning lesson. Story book romances where we fall in love with our HS sweet heart and end up spending the rest of our lives together are a thing of the past. The virgin until marriage era has long been over. You wouldn't be doing yourself a favor by getting into one and only one relationship for your entire life. Better that it happens now then later.
Dude was like 16 at the start. Trying to indict him for being focused on sex doesn't make sense. If that was the case, indict 90% of the male teen population (and a healthy dose of the female teen population as well).
Also, he's only 20, he still has a lot of maturing to do. (I didn't really mature until 28-29 ish, and I still have a ways to go)
Hey, Chrp, don't take any attacks personally. But the main point is, it happens, you'll move on. It might not seem that way. The only thing to do now is to try your best forget about her. Don't necessarily go out and meet people if you're not ready to, but do things for yourself and find ways to enjoy your life by yourself, before you know, you might meet a woman that wants to be with you. Don't put a time limit on anything, you'll never know when it comes together.
Can't agree with that, at all. Almost no one remains a virgin until marriage, even the most fundamental Christians and baptists (saw that first hand) in the bible belt.
They say they do, then they meet someone that knocks their socks off, and that "waiting" is thrown right the heck out. I was a virgin, dating a virgin, senior year in high school... the "expectation" wasn't that we were going to have sex, but we were young, in love, and hot for each other. So of course we did. It's natural.
I never said anything is "shocking" here, at all. But indicting the dude for wanting sex is silly. And yeah, most girls I knew wanted to "wait" while in high school. Precious precious few didn't have sex before the end of high school. They all were like "WTF was I thinking" after.
Might as well indict water for being wet...
But in all seriousness... especially a teenage boy, going into his twenties. He's still dealing with his hormones. Granted, I'm not necessarily taking his side, but...
C,mon.
I see it as a learning experience. I've personally made worse mistakes growing up than that. He might have made worse mistakes growing up, but whatever.
I cant believe you were going to wait 6 long grueling years passing up prime tale over one woman; sigh
Anyways, count this as a blessing. You're in college and theres plenty of college women who have no idea what waiting is.
Now get to it
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