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What would you all think of this of my situation? Would like some insights. I don't know what to think now. Was this waiting all for nothing?
We met during our sophomore year of HS, several weeks before my 16th d-day (now I'm 20). Anyway it was her decision to wait until finishing college, which would have been within 2 yrs from now.
She recently dumped me for no other reason than wanting to see others and how she wasn't feeling the same anymore. Awesome so I wasted all this time only to have this in return. I really thought she was joking and did asked her twice if this was some type of mean joke, but she serious.
I'm very upset and shocked too. I'm not so much into religion myself but I did it for her, saving myself in the process (she met me a virgin too, which I'm still am). I'm mad. I did all this for nothing.
This is why I dont date religious people or wait long
You lashed out with hurtful comments when you did not get your way. Clearly in consideration of your own hurt with little consideration for her position - feelings - or hurt. If this is the kind of person you are then perhaps this is a good starting point of exploration as to where things went wrong. And no - alcohol is not an excuse - before we go down that road.
No, it was because I was too hurt to think what I was saying at that moment.
Besides, I did want to call to apologize but she didn't pick up. Yes, I'm going to give her the space she wants but it doesn't mean I'm not still hurt. I'm not in the mood for hardly anything.
No, it was because I was too hurt to think what I was saying at that moment.
That is essentially what I was saying just put in a different way. You lashed out thinking only of your own hurt with little consideration for the position or emotions of the other. There is little excuse for this - certainly not alcohol. In fact I hope you take this as a sign that this is not a time in your life when you should be engaging with alcohol at all.
We all get hurt in life. It is up to us to mediate what we do in those moments - not to use that hurt to attempt to justify acting poorly and letting ourselves down.
Going forward, try to keep your dignity. Don't call or text her anymore.
It's over so you need to accept that. Take some time to lick your wounds, and keep looking forward. You might feel like you "wasted four years" now, but in time you'll be able to look back and see it differently.
Heartache, frustration, disappointment, whatever same thing. God, is everyone going to cross-examine my posts just because of wording?! !
probably, just something you have to live with on an internet forum.
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Originally Posted by Chrp
Even when I was 16, I knew I wanted her in my life and was willing to wait as much as she wanted. Whether I was a bf or married to her, I wanted her.
once you learn that ALL relationships are temporary by nature, you will figure a way to prepare yourself for the inevitable break up, and you will learn to move on.
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