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Also, he's only 20, he still has a lot of maturing to do. (I didn't really mature until 28-29 ish, and I still have a ways to go)
Hey, Chrp, don't take any attacks personally. But the main point is, it happens, you'll move on. It might not seem that way. The only thing to do now is to try your best forget about her. Don't necessarily go out and meet people if you're not ready to, but do things for yourself and find ways to enjoy your life by yourself, before you know, you might meet a woman that wants to be with you. Don't put a time limit on anything, you'll never know when it comes together.
Good advice. I'd also add not to sleep with the first girl that crosses your path. You don't need to wait years but IMO, it's still worth sharing that moment with someone you care about, not just a warm body.
You learned a life lesson. Now you know better than to ever date anyone again who is one of those 'wait til marriage' types. So it wasn't a total waste.
go out and get LAID NOW
16 is a bit young to be losing your V...but 20 is too frickin old to be a V
Take the wrapping off and use it
lesson to all...if you are "waiting" for someone, it is perfectly fine and legal to bang something else on the side until the prude comes around...tell your friends...
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Dude was like 16 at the start. Trying to indict him for being focused on sex doesn't make sense. If that was the case, indict 90% of the male teen population (and a healthy dose of the female teen population as well).
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go out and get LAID NOW
16 is a bit young to be losing your V...but 20 is too frickin old to be a V
Take the wrapping off and use it
lesson to all...if you are "waiting" for someone, it is perfectly fine and legal to bang something else on the side until the prude comes around...tell your friends...
Be sure to put a different type of wrap on. Please.
go out and get LAID NOW
16 is a bit young to be losing your V...but 20 is too frickin old to be a V
Take the wrapping off and use it
lesson to all...if you are "waiting" for someone, it is perfectly fine and legal to bang something else on the side until the prude comes around...tell your friends...
Heck of a pick up line...
"I was saving myself for my virgin girlfriend who dumped me. Would you like to be my first?" Lol!
Can't agree with that, at all. Almost no one remains a virgin until marriage, even the most fundamental Christians and baptists (saw that first hand) in the bible belt.
They say they do, then they meet someone that knocks their socks off, and that "waiting" is thrown right the heck out. I was a virgin, dating a virgin, senior year in high school... the "expectation" wasn't that we were going to have sex, but we were young, in love, and hot for each other. So of course we did. It's natural.
I never said anything is "shocking" here, at all. But indicting the dude for wanting sex is silly. And yeah, most girls I knew wanted to "wait" while in high school. Precious precious few didn't have sex before the end of high school. They all were like "WTF was I thinking" after.
I don't think he is wrong to want sex. Wanting it from someone who doesn't is the issue. Lots of girls have sex in HS and college. I would say the ones who don't are in the minority.
I see no reason to wait it out so long if it's important to him. I would have to,d him that at 16,17,18,19,and 20.
It's the same thing I tell my friends who are with a man who won't commit to marriage. They keep putting it off. I tell my friends, if it is so important to you then break it off and find someone else. That's with any large decision. (Sex, marriage, cohabitation, monogamy, babies, etc...)
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I don't think he is wrong to want sex. Wanting it from someone who doesn't is the issue. Lots of girls have sex in HS and college. I would say the ones who don't are in the minority.
And yeah, that is the issue. An issue most of us have had. I've wanted to have sex with more than a few women that didn't feel the same way... especially when young. Now spending 4 years...
Almost all do. The stats show that pretty clearly.
Better you found out now rather than later with a house, child support and alimony involved.
Congratulations: You just dodged a bullet.
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