Gf just dumped me, making me wait 4 yrs for nothing (boyfriends, girlfriends)
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So you just made a bunch of dumb decisions and now you're blaming her? Not to mention you guys are super young and it's not odd that she'd want to check out other options.
If you truly didnt want to wait, then you shouldve followed your true intentions. If waiting was your true intention out of love for her, then its not a waste. See the good side of this is that you were dedicated for what you thought was the best reason, so that shows what kind of person you are. Its only a waste if you were only anticipating sex the whole time, which I doubt since four years is a looooonnnnng time. Be glad you were a good boyfriend and enjoyed time together, so now you can be free to grieve for a while and hopefully find love with someone else afterwards.
She didnt make you wait, you chose to wait because you respected her boundaries. Good. Now you know in the future that if you want to have sex, then you should go ahead and find someone else who does, too.
What would you all think of this of my situation? Would like some insights. I don't know what to think now. Was this waiting all for nothing?
We met during our sophomore year of HS, several weeks before my 16th d-day (now I'm 20). Anyway it was her decision to wait until finishing college, which would have been within 2 yrs from now.
She recently dumped me for no other reason than wanting to see others and how she wasn't feeling the same anymore. Awesome so I wasted all this time only to have this in return. I really thought she was joking and did asked her twice if this was some type of mean joke, but she serious.
I'm very upset and shocked too. I'm not so much into religion myself but I did it for her, saving myself in the process (she met me a virgin too, which I'm still am). I'm mad. I did all this for nothing.
cry me a bloody river. its time for you to grow a pair and understand that you gained knowledge over the years she went with you. besides you shouldnt be having sex until both of you are ready for it, and she wasnt ready. dont like? tough. its time to move on to someone else.
Her decision to wait may have prevented an unwanted baby that neither of them was ready for.
She is not to blame for her decision, it is her body and her choice.
If he was so anxious to have sex with someone he should have found someone else.
Better you found out now rather than later with a house, child support and alimony involved.
Congratulations: You just dodged a bullet.
How is it hypergamy? just curious.
Hypergamy is the practice of marrying "up".
Are you thinking that, because she might have dumped him for someone she deems better? If that's the case just about everyone has had an experience with this.
Good. The fact that you see a relationship as completely worthless unless you're getting your rocks off means you aren't mature enough to handle sex, anyway.
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Originally Posted by MoonBeam33
A 16 year old minor who is still in HS doesn't have to "put out" based on your or any other timeline.
My suggestion was for the NOW 20 year old guy. Make his feelings regarding sex clear and up front. At 20 and being in college he is now more likely to find a girl who has a more suitable attitude to him regarding sex.
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just curious.
