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Hypothetical health child born to first time parents at age 42. The mother and father will near 60 while attending their child's high school plays, sports, bake sales etc. Most of the other parents will be in mid 40s; lots of parents will be in mid 30s. Then by the time the child finishes college and has children of own, the new grandparents would be pushing 70. Never too late, but late nonetheless.
For this reason, I'd think a late 30's to 40ish year old childless couple would want to adopt children already 5-8 years old (not babies).
Who cares? Worry about yourself. Let those old ladies have them babies!
This isn't really something that should be advocated. Exceptions don't make the rule. Mother nature is pretty clear on this.
So your stance is they shouldn't be allowed to try?
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Well, if mother nature says "nope", then it really won't matter if others advocate it or not, right?
Right?!
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Well, if mother nature says "nope", then it really won't matter if others advocate it or not, right?
Unfortunately it won't say "Nope" completely. But will deliver an expensive child with developmental disabilities which the average person is completely ill equipped to handle.
The OP may be asking about this in order to determine if the woman is someone he wants to date. In other words, this post MAY be more about whether a man wishes to start a family at an older age than about the woman conceiving naturally at an older age. A man who is in low 40's or even older may not wish to start a family at an older age. For example, if the woman is 39 and he's 45 when he meets her, it'll be a few years of dating before they get married, she would have the baby in low 40's and he'll be in his 50's by the time they have the baby. A man might not care to have babies and young children in his 50's. I know a couple that this happened to. They got married later in life. The husband expected to live the DINKS lifestyle, travel and enjoy romantic dinners and whatnot but...guess what? That isn't happening. Kids are a major financial decision. Be very careful having children just for the sake of having children. At an older age you need to think about the long term ramifications of raising children at an older age. Supporting them when you may be getting phased out of your current job. Taking on more debt when you need to think about retirement. Running around to baseball games on weekends when you'd rather be driving up to the quaint B&B along the river and hiking. Think carefully.
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The vast majority of my friends who have had children had them after 35. Two women friends of mine are pregnant now in their 40s. No big deal at all. It's great that people wait til they're mature and financially secure, and even better, found the right partner (if they decide they don't want to do it alone). Excellent.
The OP may be asking about this in order to determine if the woman is someone he wants to date. In other words, this post MAY be more about whether a man wishes to start a family at an older age than about the woman conceiving naturally at an older age. A man who is in low 40's or even older may not wish to start a family at an older age. For example, if the woman is 39 and he's 45 when he meets her, it'll be a few years of dating before they get married, she would have the baby in low 40's and he'll be in his 50's by the time they have the baby. A man might not care to have babies and young children in his 50's. I know a couple that this happened to. They got married later in life. The husband expected to live the DINKS lifestyle, travel and enjoy romantic dinners and whatnot but...guess what? That isn't happening. Kids are a major financial decision. Be very careful having children just for the sake of having children. At an older age you need to think about the long term ramifications of raising children at an older age. Supporting them when you may be getting phased out of your current job. Taking on more debt when you need to think about retirement. Running around to baseball games on weekends when you'd rather be driving up to the quaint B&B along the river and hiking. Think carefully.
Exactly...when I turned 40, I changed my status of "want kids" to "undecided" to "no". I still kept even seeing early 40s women that want kids. When I contact them, I make sure if they have indeed confirmed this. That may be they chose it in error.
If anything I figured the idea of being an elderly parent would be off-putting to most.
Then there's the other side of the coin where I"ve met women in their 50s that are empty nesters that meet men THEIR age that have YOUNG children. This is a complete deal breaker for the older ladies.
WHat happens is, these older men get married to women in their 30s or younger, these women have kids with him, and a short-lived marriage where they file for divorce.
Then he's stuck paying child support in his golden years. This can bring down an empty nester.
1. You need to have at least one kid between 15 and 25. After that is gets easier to make them. That is what my doctor for my big sister said. Because of her age and the fact that she is healthy her body did not adapt to birth-giving.
sweet 16
spinster 25
You get it???
2. People are weaving a web around their careers.
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