Childless women age 36-40 on online dating sites who want kids? (friends, social)
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As to the original question of this thread, most of the older women I knew who discussed having kids definitely meant their own biological kids. It will definitely be harder to have kids at that age, but definitely not impossible either. I think the biggest issue is that there is just a higher risk of birth defects. We are likely talking about aged eggs from the female and aged testicles producing sperm on the male side. I know a few recent mid to late 30 something women who've had kids and there doesn't seem to be any issues.
A guy I know who is 40 just recently had his first kid with his wife. They both had some issues with past pregnancies. They have what appears to be a healthy boy. He said that he does feel that it would've been different had he had the kid at 30 vs 40. Difference in energy level, having to let go of freedom one had for decades of their adult life, etc..
Yeah, I recall a guy in his 50s, his last adult kid was out of the house...he had a plan to put in pool. That came to a screeching halt when he found out his early-50s wife was pregnant.
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Hypothetical health child born to first time parents at age 42. The mother and father will near 60 while attending their child's high school plays, sports, bake sales etc. Most of the other parents will be in mid 40s; lots of parents will be in mid 30s. Then by the time the child finishes college and has children of own, the new grandparents would be pushing 70. Never too late, but late nonetheless.
For this reason, I'd think a late 30's to 40ish year old childless couple would want to adopt children already 5-8 years old (not babies).
Lol. I know lots of professionals who had their kids naturally in their mid to late 30s without goofy complications or other such nonsense.
As a woman approaches and passes 38 she faces significantly elevated risks for several birth defects especially if it’s her first. Genetic and chromosomal defects become much much much more prevalent.
Northing against parents who raise their children with these issues but it’s highly advisable to avoid starting a new relationship and introducing these issues with children right away.
Why do people ALWAYS point out the WOMAN'S age as if men do not suffer the same age related reproductive issues?
The same risks apply to older men and the quality of their sperm. Men over age 40 have lower sperm counts, sperm that has reduced ability to reach, penetrate and fertilize the egg, Defective and mutated sperm. Older men have an increased risk of having children with dwarfism and other genetic/chromosomal defects.
Why do people ALWAYS point out the WOMAN'S age as if men do not suffer the same age related reproductive issues?
The same risks apply to older men and the quality of their sperm. Men over age 40 have lower sperm counts, sperm that has reduced ability to reach, penetrate and fertilize the egg, Defective and mutated sperm. Older men have an increased risk of having children with dwarfism and other genetic/chromosomal defects.
It must be nice for all of you whose lives worked out exactly how you hoped and planned they would.
Try walking a mile in someone else's shoes before being so judgmental, or, just worry about how you're living your own lives.
Exactly. I completely agree with you. I'll be judged right now, but I never learn on here...
So my girlfriend hit 40 and decided she wanted kids. Now she's 43. She had a miscarriage in July. It may or may not happen for us, but I'm finally ok with not having them. Not ideal but it is what it is. That said, I'd be happy if she got pregnant. In our case, adopting isn't something we're thinking about yet. If we did, I would prefer an infant. Kids by the time they're 4-5 could have quite a bit of psychological damage from abusive parents or being in foster homes or whatever.
The OP may be asking about this in order to determine if the woman is someone he wants to date. In other words, this post MAY be more about whether a man wishes to start a family at an older age than about the woman conceiving naturally at an older age. A man who is in low 40's or even older may not wish to start a family at an older age. For example, if the woman is 39 and he's 45 when he meets her, it'll be a few years of dating before they get married, she would have the baby in low 40's and he'll be in his 50's by the time they have the baby. A man might not care to have babies and young children in his 50's. I know a couple that this happened to. They got married later in life. The husband expected to live the DINKS lifestyle, travel and enjoy romantic dinners and whatnot but...guess what? That isn't happening. Kids are a major financial decision. Be very careful having children just for the sake of having children. At an older age you need to think about the long term ramifications of raising children at an older age. Supporting them when you may be getting phased out of your current job. Taking on more debt when you need to think about retirement. Running around to baseball games on weekends when you'd rather be driving up to the quaint B&B along the river and hiking. Think carefully.
I am 34 (turning 35 Sept) and i decided a long time ago that i will not have kids. The mental, financial and emotional responsibility are too much for me. I enjoy making money and traveling. A lady can complement my lifestyle.
Lol. I know lots of professionals who had their kids naturally in their mid to late 30s without goofy complications or other such nonsense.
30s, I can buy into, but 40s...not so much. The risk apparently spikes drastically.
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