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He probably thought he would get you a little tipsy and then you would fall into bed with him after he said all of those "kind words". LMAO. Now he is acting cold because it didn't happen.
He probably thought he would get you a little tipsy and then you would fall into bed with him after he said all of those "kind words". LMAO. Now he is acting cold because it didn't happen.
Me and my male coworker both started out at the same company in January. We were newbies together. Our cubicles are beside each other and we instantly clicked from Day 1. He’s extremely genuine, laid back and very cool. We’ve hung out multiple times over the past few months. We’ll go out for lunch, happy hour and just flat out joke around in between projects at work. One day, me and several coworkers (including him) went to hang out after work. He told us that he’s dating someone but isn’t 100% committed to her. Then he stated how he’s not the commitment type at all and loves to date all types of people.
Let me start off by saying, I’m slightly attracted to him, but not completely. In fact, I’m not sure how I feel about him. I do have a soft spot for him because we’ve spent so much time together, but at the same time, I really don’t think its a great idea to date a coworker.
Back to the story.
Several days after the coworker outing, him and I went out for happy hour. While there, he confessed for the first time how beautiful he thought I was and that there’s no other girl quite like me. He then stated that he isn’t a commitment-phobe, but if he finds the right person, he would absolutely commit and stay monogamous. I didn’t have much to say after that, I just thanked him for the compliments and kept the conversation going.
Everything was fine after that. My birthday was 2 weeks ago and he took me out for birthday drinks after work. However, just last week, he started acting different. He came into work and joked around with me for a bit, but then he kind of avoided me for the rest of the day. I thought maybe he was just swamped with work, but he continued the same behavior for the rest of the week. I said hi to him a few times and he spoke back to me, but he would keep it short. Its very odd, and I’m getting a bad taste in my mouth because of it. He’s totally social with other people at work but when it comes to me, he doesn’t speak much or even start up conversations like he used to. He’s not being an a**hole, but his behavior just isn’t the same. Its like he’s put a wall up.. and I have to work a bit harder than other people in order to have a damn conversation with him. Its frustrating and even angers me a little. I just want my friend back and I feel like he’s slowly slipping away.
Anybody have an idea as to why he might be acting like this?
he gave you all the hints
you showed little or no interest in proceeding further than happy hour buds
you have a lot of posts about not understanding why men don't like you or "change"...a lot of coworker drama...perhaps the same guy, I am too lazy to work the dates out in all of your posts
You have demonstrated here in word that you understand who feels what for who and their is a connection together that drives you to spend time with one another.
You know exactly what the deal is and why it bothers your so much, don't play coy or niave to the game you are playing.
You're not getting what you want from him. You're getting actual plutonic relations now that he is spending time with others and you're not his priority, it upsets you because that's not what you desire from this situation. You want what you had before "the change"
That's not friendship hunny, so don't pretend it's all about that.
Last edited by rego00123; 06-23-2015 at 02:05 PM..
you have a lot of posts about not understanding why men don't like you or "change"...a lot of coworker drama...perhaps the same guy, I am too lazy to work the dates out in all of your posts
You have demonstrated here in word that you understand who feels what for who and their is a connection together that drives you to spend time with one another.
You know exactly what the deal is and why it bothers your so much, don't play coy or niave to the game you are playing.
You're not getting what you want from him. You're getting actual plutonic relations now that he is spending time with others and you're not his priority, it upsets you because that's not what you desire from this situation. You want what you had before "the change"
That's not friendship hunny, so don't pretend it's all about that.
you have a lot of posts about not understanding why men don't like you or "change"...a lot of coworker drama...perhaps the same guy, I am too lazy to work the dates out in all of your posts
You have demonstrated here in word that you understand who feels what for who and their is a connection together that drives you to spend time with one another.
You know exactly what the deal is and why it bothers your so much, don't play coy or niave to the game you are playing.
You're not getting what you want from him. You're getting actual plutonic relations now that he is spending time with others and you're not his priority, it upsets you because that's not what you desire from this situation. You want what you had before "the change"
That's not friendship hunny, so don't pretend it's all about that.
*stands up, cigar jutting from corner of mouth, and begins slow clap which rises into a crescendo of applause as others rise and join him*
you have a lot of posts about not understanding why men don't like you or "change"...a lot of coworker drama...perhaps the same guy, I am too lazy to work the dates out in all of your posts
You have demonstrated here in word that you understand who feels what for who and their is a connection together that drives you to spend time with one another.
You know exactly what the deal is and why it bothers your so much, don't play coy or niave to the game you are playing.
You're not getting what you want from him. You're getting actual plutonic relations now that he is spending time with others and you're not his priority, it upsets you because that's not what you desire from this situation. You want what you had before "the change"
That's not friendship hunny, so don't pretend it's all about that.
rego00123:
Regarding the bolded words in pink...
What does niave mean?
What does plutonic mean?
What does hunny mean?
As another poster mentioned, please translate what you posted.
As another poster mentioned, please translate what you posted.
is my reply to your post
Oh please, if you cannot figure out Naive, Platonic and Honey on your own I seriously doubt you will ever understand rego's post as it is even if someone tried to explain it to you but I'll give it a shot.
The original poster is playing a game and she knows she is playing a game but she is trying to make others believe she is not playing said game.
If you read other posts you will see the pattern and there is no need for a glowing red rocket science degree to figure it out.
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