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Whenever I step foot outside and he wants to talk to me, he is very flirtatious (smiley, sometimes blushing a little, complimentary, etc.) and aggressive. What should I do about that? I am asking in sincerity. His behavior hurts my feelings. Do I ignore him? Do I give short replies? Give a reply like everything is fine?
Stop stalking him
Stop watching who comes to his place (and the times they get there and leave...really????)
Maybe he DOES want to sleep with you, thus the flirting. Are you willing to be another in the line of women who already may be sleeping with him? If the answer is NO, then that's that.
Look over your post and find every time you talked about time going by. "Months went by" or whatever. Mayyybe, he hoped at first he'd have something spark up with you, but you didn't give enough communication, feedback, didn't encourage anything enough. Signals got crossed, missed, or misinterpreted. After however much time actually passed, he gave up. What was he supposed to do, wait forever? So he probably signed up for online dating or some hookup thing and has had good results. So, he's got lovers now. And then you display all of this negative stuff which probably has him thinking he's glad he didn't get together with you. Unfortunately (and I know, it stinks) we sometimes attach feels onto someone when we shouldn't, and hope they'll care about us when they just aren't invested. So instead of responding to your hurt with care, they respond with "whoa...she's crazy."
The only right solution to this in my opinion (and it's easier said than done by a long shot) is to be polite and friendly but not encouraging to this man. Treat him like any other neighbor. Get on with your life, go out and build a social life, be busy. Be way too busy for him, doing anything that makes you happy, but get the heck out of that apartment complex. Don't spend any free time sitting there staring out the window. If you keep hearing things that draw your attention, then play music or something. Put on headphones. And if/when you can, since you are just a renter in an apartment, consider moving.
I would say, do not under any circumstances pursue this man or engage in a romantic thing of any sort with him even if he eventually wants it. You've already got too much poison in your heart from the investment YOU put out there. And if you get involved with him and it goes sideways, which it likely will, it's gonna hurt so much more and if you still live there, you won't be able to escape.
Try to avoid getting the feels for neighbors, coworkers, or anyone that kind of close that you will see them around whether you like it or not. It tends to end very badly.
He's not your boyfriend. You have no right to be slamming any doors. You shouldn't be wondering why "he's doing this if it hurts your feelings". There's nothing between you but some flirtation. This could change, but for now that's all you've got. If I were a guy and a girl was acting like you, I'd probably stay away so I don't hurt her.
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It'll be ok... High school starts back up next week and you most likely won't have him in any of your classes.....
Exactly, he is a single guy and can do whatever he wants. He hasn't even kissed the OP or done anything other than flirt with her. You don't commit to flirting with just one person?
Omg, listen here- you don't wanna get involved w/ someone living that close to you. Give that dude a break, you are getting borderline stalker and he's becoming an unhealthy obsession.. Wow. You see 1st hand what he's up to, lol, chill on that noise... That's why his friends say "uh-oh.." when they see you.
This can be good dating advice. I don't like to date too close to where I live. If things go bad almost as bad as being at work dating.
You don't commit to flirting with just one person?
I always did and still do Also I expect my men to do the same.
Once I knew someone who tried to swear he only is flirting with me. He just "forgot" to say his wife is pregnant
To OP at least let him know you could have a thing before accusing him cheating on you.. After you both agree you could have a thing together, then you could have the rights of usage in his pants.
If he seems to be a playa, don't be played if you are not 100% sure you want to get hurt some more. I would say, it is not good to be around people who make us hurt. Find someone that makes you happy instead
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Also I expect my men to do the same.
