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No I did not treat her any different to my friends with 3 kids
Why should I?
Btw it turned out to be nothing to do with her weight - as we'd all assumed. No, when she lost the weight it became glaringly apparent that whispering behind her hand all night about That Person Over There is not only pretty obvious, its also a huge turnoff.
AFAIK she put all the weight back on and remains unmolested entirely, still bitching incessantly about prettier women.
It should never be a "deal breaker." If they really like (even love) you and want a relationship with you this will not matter. If this matters to anyone their character should be the deal breaker in this relationship, imo!
There comes a point in your life when you don't want to be a teacher or deal with things that often go along with being someone's first, like sex that isn't very good, insecurities and questions about prior relationships and experiences, and emotional attachment and assumptions that people with more experience tend not to have. For me, that age was sometime in my early-20s.
Is it a dealbreaker? After that point, it probably would have been, although I never ran into a virgin after I got out of college. Now, years later? Yes, dealbreaker. The older you get, the more you wonder why someone your age hasn't had at least one close intimate relationship with someone, and the more strange it becomes. Thirty? Forty? There comes a point when "waiting for the right person" sounds more like "no one met my impossible standards" or a cop out for "no one wanted me."
There comes a point in your life when you don't want to be a teacher or deal with things that often go along with being someone's first, like sex that isn't very good, insecurities and questions about prior relationships and experiences, and emotional attachment and assumptions that people with more experience tend not to have. For me, that age was sometime in my early-20s.
Is it a dealbreaker? After that point, it probably would have been, although I never ran into a virgin after I got out of college. Now, years later? Yes, dealbreaker. The older you get, the more you wonder why someone your age hasn't had at least one close intimate relationship with someone, and the more strange it becomes. Thirty? Forty? There comes a point when "waiting for the right person" sounds more like "no one met my impossible standards" or a cop out for "no one wanted me."
For most it isn't impossible standards or cop outs. The reality of the situation is the right person hasn't shown up or they simply aren't interesting to the opposite sex. That's life. But feel free to disbelieve if you so choose.
There comes a point in your life when you don't want to be a teacher or deal with things that often go along with being someone's first, like sex that isn't very good, insecurities and questions about prior relationships and experiences, and emotional attachment and assumptions that people with more experience tend not to have. For me, that age was sometime in my early-20s.
Is it a dealbreaker? After that point, it probably would have been, although I never ran into a virgin after I got out of college. Now, years later? Yes, dealbreaker. The older you get, the more you wonder why someone your age hasn't had at least one close intimate relationship with someone, and the more strange it becomes. Thirty? Forty? There comes a point when "waiting for the right person" sounds more like "no one met my impossible standards" or a cop out for "no one wanted me."
Meh, I've always really wondered about that being a dealbreaker in real life (not on city-data).
If two people are attracted and REALLY like each other, would one person being a virgin really be a dealbreaker at the end of the day? Besides, no one would be obligated to tell the other person you're a virgin anyhow (I wouldn't).
Meh, I've always really wondered about that being a dealbreaker in real life (not on city-data).
If two people are attracted and REALLY like each other, would one person being a virgin really be a dealbreaker at the end of the day? Besides, no one would be obligated to tell the other person you're a virgin anyhow (I wouldn't).
For me, yes. There are too many other good people out there to choose from who have already had sex and know what they're doing. I like sex. I enjoy sex. Sex is happening in a relationship with me, or there is no relationship.
Are you saying you would date someone and not tell him/her? That's pretty shabby. What are you going to do when it's time to have sex? Try to play off like you're not? Someone tried that with me. It was ridiculous and transparent.
For me, yes. There are too many other good people out there to choose from who have already had sex and know what they're doing. I like sex. I enjoy sex. Sex is happening in a relationship with me, or there is no relationship.
Are you saying you would date someone and not tell him/her? That's pretty shabby. What are you going to do when it's time to have sex? Try to play off like you're not? Someone tried that with me. It was ridiculous and transparent.
Who's to say sex WOULDN'T happen in a relationship with you or anyone else? Just because someone is a virgin doesn't mean they don't/wouldn't want sex. Besides, I've heard of some virgins actually performing much better than expected the first time they had sex. It ultimately depends on the person. I've read up on enough sex advice and tips to think I would do just fine as well.
You very well may have been in a relationship with a virgin in the past (without you knowing), and the first time you had sex with that person was mind-blowing. I've heard of that happening.
Yes, I wouldn't say anything. I wouldn't feel comfortable saying anything (none of my friends even know), nor is it the person's business to know. I'd let them know I'm diseased free (that's something they obviously should know), but that's pretty much it. You don't have to tell the person you're dating EVERYTHING.
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