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What is wrong with me? Why does my mind want to keep me permanently single? My self esteem is the absolute highest it's ever been right now.
Clearly you have a fear of being rejected...which is why you stop in your tracks when opportunity presents.
I don't believe for one second that your self-esteem is high. Your ego is high but not your self-esteem.
Guys have the most difficult time differentiating between self-esteem and ego.
You are all ego and NO self-esteem.
That is what is wrong with you.
Egotists are essentially insecure people who are attempting to cover up their own suspicion that they are not quite as good as other people by pretending that they are more important. People with very high levels of self-esteem do not need to determine their self-worth by comparing themselves, either publicly or in their own minds, with others.
An egotistical person's sense of self-worth is mostly determined by external conditions, circumstances or events. They promote themselves so that they can be convinced of their own value by the feedback they receive from peers, fans, voters, employees or even their own children. They often strive to be high achievers because they can then get the acclaim of others, in the hope that this acclaim will somehow prove their worth; though it seldom erases the suspicion that they are unworthy. It is not a bad thing to be egotistical; it is just sad.
You know, you shouldn't worry about why you can't approach a woman. You should worry about your pathological need to whine & complain about it, and your need to continually ask the same questions over and over to strangers on the Internet.
Besides, if you did speak to a woman and she showed interest, I don't think you could handle it. You really need to seek professional counseling, for the reasons above, and for the fact that you seem to enjoy humiliating yourself on the Internet. It's not normal. None of this is normal.
That^^ is a far worse issue. Seriously. You need to stop, and get actual real live help.
I am beginning to think that he just likes the abuse.
He was the same way when he went by Brahmabull or whatever the exact naming was. It's starting to come off like he's got some attention needing disorder of some type. This toggling between over-the-top bragging and then followed up with the woe is me I can't meet a woman type of posts.
Strange strange stuff..... I sometimes wonder about whether I'm normal or whatever, I come here read a few threads and think to myself... "Yep, you're about as average and normal as it gets."
Clearly you have a fear of being rejected...which is why you stop in your tracks when opportunity presents.
I don't believe for one second that your self-esteem is high. Your ego is high but not your self-esteem.
Guys have the most difficult time differentiating between self-esteem and ego.
You are all ego and NO self-esteem.
That is what is wrong with you.
Egotists are essentially insecure people who are attempting to cover up their own suspicion that they are not quite as good as other people by pretending that they are more important. People with very high levels of self-esteem do not need to determine their self-worth by comparing themselves, either publicly or in their own minds, with others.
An egotistical person's sense of self-worth is mostly determined by external conditions, circumstances or events. They promote themselves so that they can be convinced of their own value by the feedback they receive from peers, fans, voters, employees or even theirown children. They often strive to be high achievers because they can then get the acclaim of others.
hhmmmm very interesting stuff
I will say I always strive to absolutely dominate everything I do but I'm like that even if there's no acclaim from others involved, I'm very very competitive. I want to win at everything I do.
He was the same way when he went by Brahmabull or whatever the exact naming was. It's starting to come off like he's got some attention needing disorder of some type. This toggling between over-the-top bragging and then followed up with the woe is me I can't meet a woman type of posts.
Strange strange stuff..... I sometimes wonder about whether I'm normal or whatever, I come here read a few threads and think to myself... "Yep, you're about as average and normal as it gets."
That's why I like coming here... After reading some of this stuff I just shut off my computer and say.. Thank you Jesus!
You know, you shouldn't worry about why you can't approach a woman. You should worry about your pathological need to whine & complain about it, and your need to continually ask the same questions over and over to strangers on the Internet.
Besides, if you did speak to a woman and she showed interest, I don't think you could handle it. You really need to seek professional counseling, for the reasons above, and for the fact that you seem to enjoy humiliating yourself on the Internet. It's not normal. None of this is normal.
Not to change the subject, but this is more "normal" than Bruce Jenner (who is praised for his mental instability).
OP, I think you just need to turn down the emotions a bit. I'm an emotional guy too so I get it. But I've found that things go a lot smoother (with women and in life) when you don't get worked up over things.
I was coming back from my football game that I just dominated so I felt great. This girl was EXACTLY my type
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What is wrong with me? Why does my mind want to keep me permanently single? My self esteem is the absolute highest it's ever been right now. I can go to work and have confidence that I can sell 40 cars in a month because I do have the capacity to be incredibly charismatic but it just doesn't translate over to dating. Why Is it so hard for me to believe a girl my age like that would love me?
Lol... you should stay at home, and work on your self esteem and confidence. You know - it can be improved!
But... if you can't, get some counseling.
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