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Depends on where you are. I see it pretty often where I am, particularly among the upper-middle class (and what I see of the upper class). Money usually makes the difference, although a man successful in any field can have the same effect. A successful man will usually be a confident man, and confidence seems to be attractive to women.
I don't think it's confidence. Confidence is way overrated in my opinion.
However, I've recently gone from being a man with "potential" to becoming successful. Since then, I've been attracting higher quality women.
I feel different. Not more confident, per se (though I am), but it's more of a feeling that I figured something out. Since becoming successful in my career, I have a better understanding of how life works. I believe that this understanding has led me to more success with women, not the confidence itself.
Divorce is brought on by a million reasons, but I'm pretty sure looks aren't a driving factor in such a decision.
Probably in some cases it is for the ones who settled. I think the women who were with attractive guys when they were younger, but than got into a serious relationship with a less attractive guy due to something besides looks is somewhat settling.
Probably in some cases it is for the ones who settled. I think the women who were with attractive guys when they were younger, but than got into a serious relationship with a less attractive guy due to something besides looks is somewhat settling.
You seem pretty set on your opinion. I think life is much more diverse.
Probably in some cases it is for the ones who settled. I think the women who were with attractive guys when they were younger, but than got into a serious relationship with a less attractive guy due to something besides looks is somewhat settling.
Learning to make more mature decisions is not "settling." There are simply things more important in a long term relationship than physical attractiveness.
Especially, if we're talking about a life-long relationship, physical attractiveness starts declining after one hits thirty years old. A person who has learned to base attraction on things that will last for life will have a better chance of keeping the relationship for life.
If someone loves someone, they don't think about "doing better." Not everything is about looks. Nobody is "better" than my husband.
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True. I'd wish most people had that mindset, but unfortunately divorce rate shows that's likely not the case.
It sounds like you understand - and then you say this...
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Probably in some cases it is for the ones who settled. I think the women who were with attractive guys when they were younger, but than got into a serious relationship with a less attractive guy due to something besides looks is somewhat settling.
And it confirms to me what all your previous posts have made me believe - you just don't understand. When you love someone, you aren't settling. People are MORE than just what they look like.
Probably in some cases it is for the ones who settled. I think the women who were with attractive guys when they were younger, but than got into a serious relationship with a less attractive guy due to something besides looks is somewhat settling.
Some men have a running monologue in their heads about why they are rejected or have issues with women and I've seen this on CD and in real life, they tend to fabric stories that tend to fill in for their own shortcomings, a script, if you will, of reasons why they can't be successful with women.
Looks, height, penis size, whatever the issue is, they tend to build supporting stories to reinforce their own self defeating reasons and or rationalization as to why they don't have dating success... it must be because I don't look like Brad Pitt or whoever is the latest hot piece out there.
Self talk, along with supporting narratives in their own minds and a few incidental experiences in real life all come together like some kind of messed up synergy to reinforce a lot of negatively that we read on this forum.
It's sad actually, cause life is short and friggin lonely and we shouldn't self-defeat ourselves... yeah, of course there are real rejections... but these 'real' rejections are probably not nearly as many as the ones in the minds of many young people here......
It sounds like you understand - and then you say this...
And it confirms to me what all your previous posts have made me believe - you just don't understand. When you love someone, you aren't settling. People are MORE than just what they look like.
But how can everyone who's married love their wife/husband if the divorce rate is 50%? Something isn't right there.
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