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Let's say that I go on a date with a girl.
Is it wrong to let her pay for her own meal if I find out that I'm not interested in ever seeing her again?
In this case, I wouldn't gain anything but a hole in my wallet.
To be clear, I'm talking about the case where she offers to pay for her meal and I don't refuse.
Let's say that I go on a date with a girl.
Is it wrong to let her pay for her own meal if I find out that I'm not interested in ever seeing her again?
In this case, I wouldn't gain anything but a hole in my wallet.
To be clear, I'm talking about the case where she offers to pay for her meal and I don't refuse.
It's not wrong. You're not required to pay for her if you don't want to. I've been on dates where I've paid for myself and the world didn't end.
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Originally Posted by homeboi
Let's say that I go on a date with a girl.
Is it wrong to let her pay for her own meal if I find out that I'm not interested in ever seeing her again?
In this case, I wouldn't gain anything but a hole in my wallet.
To be clear, I'm talking about the case where she offers to pay for her meal and I don't refuse.
Hell no, it ain't wrong. I'd say it's smart. Who cares if it makes her mad since you ain't ever seeing her again anyway.
The solution for that kind of thing starts before you even go out.
If you ASK her out in a way that implies you are "taking her out to dinner," it would not be cool to switch gears halfway through.
If she offers, you can always "let" her pay, of course. But if you aren't even sure you like someone, then set it up as mutual/dutch from the beginning.
The solution for that kind of thing starts before you even go out.
If you ASK her out in a way that implies you are "taking her out to dinner," it would not be cool to switch gears halfway through.
If she offers, you can always "let" her pay, of course. But if you aren't even sure you like someone, then set it up as mutual/dutch from the beginning.
It really depends on how you word it. I always says something along the lines of "let's grab lunch at blah blah".
I never say "let me take you to X".
Nothing wrong with it. Not my style, but we all don't like the same things, right.
My advice to you is to tell her you plan on going Dutch on this first date (so she can make sure she has cash on her and budget her meal accordingly... and there are no unpleasant surprises). If it works out, you can always "surprise" her by paying for the whole meal.
And an offshoot of this post, women should always be prepared to pay for their first date meal because you never know if you are dating a more traditional man or a more liberal one like the OP. "Be prepared" isn't just for Boy Scouts.
Let's say that I go on a date with a girl.
Is it wrong to let her pay for her own meal if I find out that I'm not interested in ever seeing her again?
In this case, I wouldn't gain anything but a hole in my wallet.
To be clear, I'm talking about the case where she offers to pay for her meal and I don't refuse.
Oh - so a hole in your wallet versus possible access to "her hole". Gotcha...purely a business transaction. If you look and you like it, you'll decide to "rent it"...otherwise she pays her own way. This is NOT a date...purely a business proposition and you should make that very clear to her up front so she can fairly decide if that's what she wants to do. Haha - "Have I got a proposition for you.....!" haha
Very classy - typically, if you ask to meet, then you pay - that would work the same for her.
My philosophy is simple. If I don't like a girl enough to pay for her lunch/dinner, I will never ask her to go out in the first place. WTH would I waste my and her time. If I like her enough to ask her out, I pay 100% because there is a reason I asked her in the first place.
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