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Originally Posted by Star10101
I'm not sure what it's like in America but in the UK (where I am from), a lot of women are now going to college and getting jobs way before they even think about getting married and having kids.
A lot of people I know are getting married in their 30's, giving them lots of time to experience independence and life skills first.
It's the same here. Most women I know didn't even have something like marriage on the radar before their early 30s. They're very wise.
It's the individuals in the lower economic strata that generally (I said generally) start earlier.
Side effects = coming home exhausted, beeing moody, tired, naggy, unrelaxed ....
But couldn't you argue that in some one income families, the breadwinner has to work even harder and longer hours to support a wife and family, so that they're even more moody, tired, naggy, and unrelaxed from having to carry that entire load. When both people work the income burden is shared.
But couldn't you argue that in some one income families, the breadwinner has to work even harder and longer hours to support a wife and family, so that they're even more moody, tired, naggy, and unrelaxed from having to carry that entire load. When both people work the income burden is shared.
That is the main reason why SAH wouldn't work for me: one income just isn't enough, and I can't see having one partner bear the financial burden of supporting children we both made. If we lived in a LCOL area it might be different dynamic, and even then I would still have a work-at-home gig. But having marketable skills and living in one of the best areas to make use of that... there's just no good reason not to once the kids start school.
In the UK, we have a very generous 'benefits system' to help these people out financially.
LOL, some would say those very "generous benefits" to help those out is part of the problem of why they aren't climbing out.... Hand up, not hand out, but that is another thread......
I'm not sure what it's like in America but in the UK (where I am from), a lot of women are now going to college and getting jobs way before they even think about getting married and having kids.
A lot of people I know are getting married in their 30's, giving them lots of time to experience independence and life skills first.
I'm a generation before you, and while I see that in my current city, a lot of people back home in my coal cracker area got married right out of high school (some during). Some of the women worked in the beginning, but it was as cashiers, etc. They have no skills now, and were something to happen to their husband, they would never be able to maintain an already meager lifestyle.
I'm a generation before you, and while I see that in my current city, a lot of people back home in my coal cracker area got married right out of high school (some during). Some of the women worked in the beginning, but it was as cashiers, etc. They have no skills now, and were something to happen to their husband, they would never be able to maintain an already meager lifestyle.
That isn't a side affect of not working.
That is a side affect of just giving up on yourself and focusing on only a few things in life.
Lazy people will be lazy regardless of what path they choose in life.
You're not just suppose to roll over and stop everything if you choose to be a housewife or stay at home with the kids.
Last edited by rego00123; 10-21-2015 at 12:39 PM..
I would love to, honestly. Especially now that kids are in school, I can't even imagine what I would accomplish during the day. I wouldn't want my husband to come home and be disconnected from us though. Unfortunately cost of living sucks and we both have to work full time. But I did SAH for 2 years when I was pregnant with my youngest, and a year after she was born. It was the most wonderful 2 years ever. In my spare time I made stuff and sold it online, which was very fulfilling.
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