How big of a disadvantage is being bald/balding for men in the dating game? (how to, married)

[sjm1976]

I am a 39 year old white guy and I started losing my hair 10 years ago.


Ironically, my last gf broke up with me about the time I started losing my hair and I have found dating to be considerably harder since that time.
I'm pretty sure that she didn't break up with me because of my lack of confidence because I didn't let my hairloss bother me when I first noticed it and my personality was the same it always was.


I had the ol horseshoe baldness pattern going for awhile and I've alternated between buzzing my hair real short and outright shaving it but I rarely get any signs of interest from women regardless of what I do, anymore.


I'm really starting to believe that a man having a full head of hair is right up there with being tall in terms of the physical characteristics that women look for in a man.


To any other bald/balding men, have you had a tougher time dating since losing your hair and to any women, how big of a turnoff is a bald/balding guy to you or does it matter at all?
I expect to see a decent amount of women respond that it doesn't matter at all but actions speak louder than words to me and I rarely see decent looking women in public with bald guys.

[BirdieBelle]

It totally depends on your bone structure and overall fitness and appearance.

Ed Harris was always attractive. Jason Alexander, not so much.

[sjm1976]

I am very physically fit though I'm on the short side at only 5'7".

[DMfan]

Yeah, it really depends on how it works with the rest of the guy's look. I think bald looks better than trying to hide that you're balding though (longer hair to try to cover areas, etc). Bruce Willis is one of my major Hollywood crushes. He looked gooood in the 90's with some hair and good a few years later with no hair.

[MountainHi]

It depends on how you come across. If you know how to put women at ease and make them the center of your attention, or are upbeat and energetic, you'll have crowds of them following you around. I've actually seen a bald guy do this. He wasn't a pick-up artist, he just had a positive personality. He wasn't even trying to get attention, but it would happen wherever he went, including during his workday. And he wasn't tall, if the shorties are thinking he must have been. He was about 5'8".

[CapsChick]

I used to work with a guy who had this issue. I urged him to shave his head, as did other female colleagues. He finally did it in his late 30s. He's now married with kids.

I was always most attracted to guys with a full head of hair. My husband had a receding hairline when we started dating. I encouraged him to shave his head, and he did (about 3 years ago) and has kept it shaved ever since.

I think shaving your head is always the way to go in this scenario.

[timberline742]

I was proactive. I had plenty of hair in my early/mid 20s. But it was fine hair. I shaved it clean. My dating improved.

It took some encouragement of my ladyfriend at the time. I eventually looked at it this way. A woman that really wants a thick head of hair wasn't going to want me anyway, as I had very fine hair, even though it was fully covered. There are loads of women that do like bald heads though, so, I went that route. No loss. Only gain.

[seaduced]

Women worth anything won't care.

[ItsRick24]

I started losing my hair in my early 30s (I'm 52 now); I do wear caps but I ABSOLUTELY REFUSE to go the toupee/hairpiece route! If a woman doesn't like me 'cause I haven't got a full head of hair (anymore), she's just IMO very shallow and materialistic! And I'm NOT gonna with a shallow, materialistic anyone!

[Raena77]

The last guy I was dating was bald. I thought he was goodlooking.