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I dated a really pretty woman, who was far prettier than almost all the other women I dated. One thing about her, was that she was approached by men an average of once a day literally. Not that there is anything wrong with that, but all those approaches I think is what caused her to be cold and somewhat generally rude to men, and perhaps this is what causes other pretty women to be that as well?
There's no reason for a woman to be rude to a man who had the courage to approach her in a nice way. If he's douchebag, then by all means they can have at him.
There's something to be said for enthusiasm about shared interests. This situation actually just happened with me (as the guy in your scenario):
I was in Vegas for the weekend to attend a video game championship (have at me!). Not exactly the most neutral of interests to have. I met two women while I was there (for those of you who subscribe to such a system, you could call one a "9" and one a "5"), both of whom were in town for the weekend as well.
We got to talking, and the reason for my visit came up:
The first, more attractive woman: "Really? That's a thing? Why would someone want to watch that?"
The second, "average" looking woman: "That sounds fun! Are they still selling tickets?"
The first woman wasn't being rude or condescending, but she genuinely couldn't understand why someone would find that sort of thing interesting. Meanwhile, the second girl not only expressed enthusiasm for a shared interest, but volunteered participation as well (assuming it was possible). In a span of 10 seconds, the first woman was all but a vapor in my mind.
I use that specific example because it's such an easy, polarizing one. But it didn't have to be "video games", it could just as easily have been a particular sport, band, sense of fashion, artistic endeavor, vacation locale, etc. People connect strongly with others who share similar passions.
Let's say you have a choice between two girls, both the same age (let's say 24), and both the same size (both are a size 2).
One is significantly more beautiful in the face, and absolutely no one would call her ugly; her personality isn't terrible either, it's very down to earth, and she's sweet to you.
The other has a significant amount in common with you (such as you share a common hobby or two) and is well-traveled, well-read, etc. for her age. Her face isn't horrid, but definitely not beautiful. She's rather calm and kind also.
If these two girls were competing for the same guy (you), what would the "less attractive" one have to do to win you over? (For long-term love).
I find myself in this position a lot...as the unattractive one.
I'm not asking about a specific guy or whining, but rather, asking for tips and ideas that might help me "compete" with prettier women my same age.
I know that the usual advice is "work out, makeup, hair, dress nice", however, those things can only do so much when your unattractiveness lies in genetic factors, like having a huge nose.
Thanks in advance for your advice. I appreciate honesty above all; that's always more useful.
Take a good look at your future Mother in Law, that's going to be your wife in looks and personality in 20+ years.
If you don't like your MIL you won't like your wife in the future either.
Yes, sure. That's why she's posting here, and she's not unusual. The plain, average types tend to fall into invisibility.
The plain average types are the ones that get approached the most, in my experience (because not every woman is gorgeous). And unless, shes dressed in a nuns outfit, she will get some sort of male attention; some wanted and unwanted.
The OP is asking about how to get a guys attention. How is she supposed to lure a guy in with great sex prior to him noticing her?
Dressing sexy, being flirty, engaging in sexual innuendo and jokes, and generally not acting like a prude that considers sex to be some unmentionable disgusting thing.
Dressing sexy, being flirty, engaging in sexual innuendo and jokes, and generally not acting like a prude that considers sex to be some unmentionable disgusting thing.
Right. She's supposed to walk up to complete strangers and do this? What if the OP wants a good relationship, not a 1-night stand or a FWB?
Right. She's supposed to walk up to complete strangers and do this? What if the OP wants a good relationship, not a 1-night stand or a FWB?
So she's supposed to walk up to complete strangers and dazzle them with her personality? Who said anything about strangers? Not the OP. Some of you need to stop coming up with contrived scenarios to show that sex is not important.
The OP didn't ask how or where to meet guys. Her scenario was how to "compete" with a prettier girl for a guy so presumably she is already meeting and getting to know guys. If her problem is meeting and talking to guys, then that's a different issue.
A "good relationship" can include lots of good sex, you know that, right? That's all I'm saying... let the guy know in various ways that a "good relationship" with you will mean good sex and he will likely choose that over a relationship with a hottie where the sex is not so good.
Men are ruled by sex, and food....
Wear high heels (the 5 inch or more height) and "shorter" skirt, and offer him some food.. Your in
Replace food with sex and that should do it
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