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I can't help but think that her husband is denying having kids with her because deep inside he grew out of love for her and is just using the "I don't want kids" as an excuse.
I can't help but think that her husband is denying having kids with her because deep inside he grew out of love for her and is just using the "I don't want kids" as an excuse.
It's possible, but it's also not really your concern. I'd be careful in how you tread this issue.
My friend is this pretty girl, she met her se in 2004 and they got married in 2013. They are now both in their mid thirties. The other day I was asking if they had any plans for having kids. She answered it would be something that probably would never happen since her husband doesn't want kids. She elaborated about it, how much her parents were expecting to have grandchildren, and she wanted kids herself. That made sad for her. Do you people can/should stay married in such case?
Honestly I don't understand why she married a man who does not want kids or did she married with out knowing that he does not want kids.?? It is depend some marriages survive but .. some ,,,what you really can do just be there for your friend for what ever the decision she take with out interfering. And with out advising or giving her tips or anything.
I can't help but think that her husband is denying having kids with her because deep inside he grew out of love for her and is just using the "I don't want kids" as an excuse.
Not really. Some people simply don't want kids. A friend of mine, had a horrible childhood. According to him, they were very poor, father & mother had serious issues. He doesn't and will not have children because he is afraid he'll be a bad parent. Simple.
Honestly I don't understand why she married a man who does not want kids or did she married with out knowing that he does not want kids.?? It is depend some marriages survive but .. some ,,,what you really can do just be there for your friend for what ever the decision she take with out interfering. And with out advising or giving her tips or anything.
The thing with wanting to be child-free is that people optimistically believe that at some magical point, you will change your mind. They got married in their mid-20s. If he said at that point he didn't want children, she might have thought he would change his mind by the time they were in their early 30s. He hasn't changed his mind and it doesn't sound like he will. There are lots of people who are happily child free for no other reason than they simply don't want children.
Couples can stay happily married if neither party wants children, but in those cases the parties are usually already in their mid-30s at the time they get married and know they aren't going to change their minds sometime down the road. I think this really is an issue where you have one person who changes his or her mind and the other person doesn't.
Lots of couples do fine without children. Not everyone can even have children. IMHO, if a wife married a man and then can't have children and gets a divorce, then she got married, not because her love for her husband, but because she wanted children. She intended to use him as a tool to get what she really wanted.
Why of course. We never wanted kids and will celebrate 34 yrs. in Sept.
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