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Originally Posted by Damnitjanet
The reason this stuff ends up being important to women like me is a lot of this type of home repair/ auto repair stuff are things that we physically just can't do. My dad would change the oil in the car and do other auto repairs and I would go out and watch him and so I have some idea of how things should work in a car, because my dad actually took the time to explain how stuff on a car works to me. Thanks dad!
Tho my husband knows different sports cars...it’s just a hobby of his & not important to me. My dad taught me the basics too & if I had car trouble, I would take it in. I always drive cars that are kind of new tho so it’s been under warranty the time or 2 I had an issue. Matter of fact, anything that I thanked my dad for would not be something I would find a turn on in my man!
I am reminded that I consider it....maybe not a "turn on" exactly, but definitely points in a man's favor, if he actually likes cats. I get that some folks are allergic, that's different, but those who don't understand how to interact with cats, and especially anyone who loudly declaims their "dog person" status and/or says that they hate cats, I won't want to be too close to.
One of many little pings of, "yeah, I think you're the one for me!" that my husband got going for him in the early days, was when he first visited my home and met Nimbus and he said, "I speak cat."
And hey, Formerly Known As Twenty, regarding being Gen X and fixing stuff, you know what drives me slightly crazy? As someone who saw the internet become what it is, and lived without it, I really appreciate being able to use it to figure stuff out. Not sure how long to cook something basic? Google it. Can't figure out where they hid the battery in a PT Cruiser's engine compartment (that happened to me once)...to the internets! But my sons, who grew up with the internet always there, often don't even THINK to use it to get answers sometimes. They're just like, "I don't know how to do that." /sigh
I tend to view guys who are good with playing with dogs are good with playing roughly with little boys, but I think a guy who can get along well with cats is better with interacting with women and girls. Cats are finicky but so are women, there is a right and wrong way to touch us and we want to know you have that ability to be gentle when the time comes for it. A lot of the sensitivities about being manhandled that a cat has, I have too. So the guys who can demonstrate that they can get along with a cat are demonstrating that they have some of these soft skills to get along with me too.
I tend to view guys who are good with playing with dogs are good with playing roughly with little boys, but I think a guy who can get along well with cats is better with interacting with women and girls. Cats are finicky but so are women, there is a right and wrong way to touch us and we want to know you have that ability to be gentle when the time comes for it. A lot of the sensitivities about being manhandled that a cat has, I have too. So the guys who can demonstrate that they can get along with a cat are demonstrating that they have some of these soft skills to get along with me too.
A memorable exchange I had with someone once, a man was telling me that if he's got a pet, and he feeds and cares for it, then by god, interactions with that animal are on his terms and not the pet's. If he wants snuggles, the creature had better be available for that, and if he wants to play, then it's time to play. And that he hated cats because they seemed to think they had a say in such things.
And that really kinda clarified some stuff about my opinions in this regard. It's a lesson in consent. Sometimes my cat doesn't feel like being snuggled or petted, and he'll let you know politely at first, but if you ignore that, you'll get the claws and the teeth. So you'd better be willing to take a "no" or a "not right now" unless you wanna get punctured. Of course, there is more to it...being able to understand the cat's cues indicates some awareness of nonverbal communication.
I am reminded that I consider it....maybe not a "turn on" exactly, but definitely points in a man's favor, if he actually likes cats. I get that some folks are allergic, that's different, but those who don't understand how to interact with cats, and especially anyone who loudly declaims their "dog person" status and/or says that they hate cats, I won't want to be too close to.
Nice to know some women appreciate that. Most don't, or so it seems in my experience speaking as a proud cat owner to a 15 year old cat. Any woman who likes cats would love how mine interacts with me. All over me all the time.
I am reminded that I consider it....maybe not a "turn on" exactly, but definitely points in a man's favor, if he actually likes cats. I get that some folks are allergic, that's different, but those who don't understand how to interact with cats, and especially anyone who loudly declaims their "dog person" status and/or says that they hate cats, I won't want to be too close to.
One of many little pings of, "yeah, I think you're the one for me!" that my husband got going for him in the early days, was when he first visited my home and met Nimbus and he said, "I speak cat."
And hey, Formerly Known As Twenty, regarding being Gen X and fixing stuff, you know what drives me slightly crazy? As someone who saw the internet become what it is, and lived without it, I really appreciate being able to use it to figure stuff out. Not sure how long to cook something basic? Google it. Can't figure out where they hid the battery in a PT Cruiser's engine compartment (that happened to me once)...to the internets! But my sons, who grew up with the internet always there, often don't even THINK to use it to get answers sometimes. They're just like, "I don't know how to do that." /sigh
Lol. I've noticed the same thing with the younger folks. I don't know how many times I get asked random things that could easily be Googled by the younger gen. Even my Silent Gen Mom uses the internet on the reg. Woman's pushing eighty and not all that computer literate, but she's all about the Google to figure stuff out. Still, it's nice to be asked for advice once in a while. That whole human need to be needed is real.
The internet has largely replaced those old Time-Life books for how-to knowledge; without it and a few of the trades folk who I've worked with over the years who are happy to lend guidance and advice as needed I'd have had a harder go at getting things that Dad/Mom didn't teach me to do over the years. (My plumber/HVAC guy is the best at walking me though boiler issues over the phone and if I were single and younger, I'd be all over him like white on rice. As it stands, though, I am glad that I don't see him more often as he's a very busy man and well-deservedly pricey.)
So far as animals, on our third date, my man brought along his dog. I guess that I must have passed the dog test (dog certainly passed mine) because that dog now comes to me for walks, food, foot pets, and to be let out even when his main people are around. Either that or the dog knows a soft touch when he sees one, lol.
It's good that you husband passed the Nimbus-approval test!
How about a Physics degree with maximum honors? (Unfortunately just a BS, never went further, one of my few regrets in life...)
Makes his own ammo including casting bullets? Can hit a beer can at 40 yards using that ammo in a 100+ year old Luger? Fluent reader and serviceable speaker of Russian, started in his 40's?
Card carrying MENSA member and chapter officer for years?
Is that working for you?
Both sexes tend to want more then usually one person has too offer. Men want a lady in public and a pornstar in the bedroom. As far as things go like changing a tire, etc it’s goof foe everyone to know how to so basic mechanics. Even hot when a woman can do those things. it seems that Hollywood has taught men and women this piece of fiction.
Women with thin arms that are slightly muscular is a really attractive trait to me.
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Tho my husband knows different sports cars...it’s just a hobby of his & not important to me. My dad taught me the basics too & if I had car trouble, I would take it in. I always drive cars that are kind of new tho so it’s been under warranty the time or 2 I had an issue. Matter of fact, anything that I thanked my dad for would not be something I would find a turn on in my man!
