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Argh! For gods sake. I get an apology that she says she sees my side of this and feels horrible. But she had a bad day at work and doesn't want to talk! Says she has to do her hair and get to bed early! What a freaking insult.
2.5 years I've been tolerant of this. But the texting got sexual after our breakup last year. I get commitments from my girlfriend and her ex husband that they will keep it to regular ex spouse stuff, but he can't stick to it. We had a wonderful night last night and I slept over. We are getting ready to go out for the day and a damm text comes in from him and I look at her phone. Turns out he had asked her to spend the day with him and have sex. To use him as the guy on the side. And all this and he has a gf and knows we are trying to work things out. She turned him down. But I was mad that she didn't tell me about it. She says she's gonna cut him off but doesn't. He still helps her some $$ but hell I do for my ex wife as well. They have no kids together.
I'm at a point of an ultimatum. Cut him off 100%. Change phone numbers and email accounts or we are forever done. I hate that it has come to this. But I won't have any guy talk like that to a woman I am with.
Who's been thru this. ? Advice ? Opinions ?
That was your mistake. You never accept unacceptable behaviors. What you accept you teach.
Your girlfriend is more to blame than her EX. She obviously has bad morals, because this would never have happened in the first place if she had a decent character. And, if she would do it to you with him, she would likely do it to you with someone else.
Personally I don't see how you could trust her ever.
Go find a decent girl who wants a real relationship and builds it with you with mutual regard and trust. Think about it, which type woman do you want to raise children with?
Argh! For gods sake. I get an apology that she says she sees my side of this and feels horrible. But she had a bad day at work and doesn't want to talk! Says she has to do her hair and get to bed early! What a freaking insult.
Don't even entertain it or her bad day. Ditch the *****.
All so true. And all very sad. This is not the first time I've been with a woman that could not cut the ties with the ex. I guarantee the moment I even sniff this issue with another woman and I will cut and run instantly. It never truly gets better. I guess some women just never get over the ex.
Argh! For gods sake. I get an apology that she says she sees my side of this and feels horrible. But she had a bad day at work and doesn't want to talk! Says she has to do her hair and get to bed early! What a freaking insult.
Son, you have got to realize that this person does not care about your feelings on any level. What is it that she is using you for? Do you pay her rent? Her bills? Are you popular? For some reason she is stringing you along, and you are allowing it.
Please find a support group that relates to co-dependency. Call your local mental health center, or domestic violence center and ask about co-dependency support groups in your area, and go find the one you are comfortable in. You will grow strong, you will learn how to walk away from such a dysfunctional relationship without feeling like your insides are being ripped out....Co-dependency is an addiction, to the wrong people, for the wrong reasons. It will change your life for the better, it saved mine.
I guarantee the moment I even sniff this issue with another woman and I will cut and run instantly.
That's great but what are you going to do with this one now? Are you staying with her or dumping her? Make up your mind and quit being such a doormat.
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I guess some women just never get over the ex.
Nor do some guys also. This is not an exclusive phenomenon by women only. There are guys out there hung up on their ex's pulling the exact same crap on their gf's too. In fact I'm sure I've seen some posts on here about that very topic.
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