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No, I wouldn't run. I would think that it's nice to finally a meet a woman that is goal-oriented and upfront about her intentions.
This is the reason that I think I was born in the wrong era. I don't believe that any kind of dating or sex should be casual.
Have you ever actually had occasion to test this or are you just fantasizing that it would be so great to have women attempt to pin you down permanently as of the first date?
Have you ever actually had occasion to test this or are you just fantasizing that it would be so great to have women attempt to pin you down permanently as of the first date?
That is a genuine question, BTW.
That's not what he's saying.
He's saying he'd like them to make their intentions clear from the first date
Which sounds reasonable.
More direct conversation would eliminate a lot of relationship problems.
That's not what he's saying.
He's saying he'd like them to make their intentions clear from the first date
Which sounds reasonable.
Okay, well, what intentions???
This is the whole point.
How in the nine blue hells can she know what her intentions with him are before they have even finished up the first date? She doesn't know how much she wants from him yet even of she does have some basic life goal in place.
"A casual date is an evening, a meal, or a get-together of some kind in which there is no expectation of further commitment on either side. Although one side may desire a further relationship, it is understood that both parties are free to sample the company of each other and are as equally free to terminate any sense of relationship as well." -Daniel Zauber, dailyprincetonian.com Casual dating is the 'getting to know you' phase.
Have you ever actually had occasion to test this or are you just fantasizing that it would be so great to have women attempt to pin you down permanently as of the first date?
That is a genuine question, BTW.
Of course not. Most women are not very serious these days.
This sounds like most dating to me. I think men dislike it because they're tired of having their time wasted by women that either just want an ego boost or are indecisive.
Dating wouldn't be necessary at all if everyone was immediately decisive because they could immediately intuit everything needed to determine that the person was perfect for them!
That's not what he's saying.
He's saying he'd like them to make their intentions clear from the first date
Which sounds reasonable.
More direct conversation would eliminate a lot of relationship problems.
Now you're getting it.
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Originally Posted by JerZ
Okay, well, what intentions???
This is the whole point.
How in the nine blue hells can she know what her intentions with him are before they have even finished up the first date? She doesn't know how much she wants from him yet even of she does have some basic life goal in place.
Here's a current example of the BS that I deal with. A girl approached me at the gym about a month ago under the guise of becoming my gym buddy. I had no idea how to interpret this. We went to the gym a few times and then went out a few times. Again, I had no idea what was going on so I asked her on a legitimate date (this was only 2 weeks into knowing each other....I didn't want to wait around). She rejected me, saying that she only wanted to be friends.
I was upset but got over it in a day or 2 (in that time, I met this new girl). The gym girl invited me to the gym, but I declined.
After I got rejected by the new girl yesterday, I was, again, upset. So I contacted the gym girl, my "friend", that lives in my complex. I went over to her place to talk about this, since we're friends. Well, she got upset with me that I didn't pursue her more and was asking me why. She then gave me a story about a current guy that she rejected and he is now pursuing her, which she likes.
She was also upset that I called her up only when I needed to talk about something that was upsetting me.
But I thought we were friends. Guess not. What she really wanted was for me to pursue her. Why not just say that?
It got me wondering whether or not the current girl is doing the same thing (and many women have done this to me in the past, more women than not actually).
How in the nine blue hells can she know what her intentions with him are before they have even finished up the first date? She doesn't know how much she wants from him yet even of she does have some basic life goal in place.
I don't think he's expecting any woman to know what her intentions with him are.
He's asking what their overall goals are.
Dating wouldn't be necessary at all if everyone was immediately decisive because they could immediately intuit everything needed to determine that the person was perfect for them!
I know. Exactly.
In fact, I think this is how Mr. Spock's father and that earth woman got started.
They were together for decades until her planet swallowed her so I would call it an overall success, except for that last part.
Geez, lighten up, people. Dating is supposed to be fun at least in some small way. Why would it be so bad to just go on a date because it is fun to get to know someone and maybe feel the romance and, well, who knows...? Without guarantees but with a degree of optimism?
I don't think he's expecting any woman to know what her intentions with him are.
He's asking what their overall goals are.
Yes thank you.
Are you available for hire? I think I may need you translate whenever I'm talking to women.
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