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My bf said he wants a trial of living together before marriage. See, in my country, there is no engagement things. So I don't know engagement is a big thing? So there are two different rings for a woman? One is for engagement one is for marriage?
My bf said he wants a trial of living together before marriage. See, in my country, there is no engagement things. So I don't know engagement is a big thing? So there are two different rings for a woman? One is for engagement one is for marriage?
Why not have a long engagement? Get engaged, move together, live together for 1-2 years and then get married?
Now that I have a young child in tow, I wouldn't live in with a man unless we're married. However, I'd make sure we'll get along by spending lots of time together like a live in situation, like doing daily activities together (grocery shopping, cook together, vacationing, spend the night/weekend). If I don't have kid, I maybe open to live together if I think he's the one I'll marry eventually with some condition. We'll get engaged in one year after moving in, and get married one year after getting engaging. The live in together period should be for the peace of mind that the person you want to spend the rest of your life is in fact as genuine as he/she is. Both should have the intention of marriage before moving in. It should not replace being married, like he still likes playing house, but has no intention of spending his life with you.
My bf said he wants a trial of living together before marriage. See, in my country, there is no engagement things. So I don't know engagement is a big thing? So there are two different rings for a woman? One is for engagement one is for marriage?
What country do you live in?
In the U.S., people all do this differently, but the tradition is an engagement ring (for the woman only) and then a wedding band/wedding ring for the bride and groom to put on one another's finger while saying the wedding vows.
However, no rings at all are actually required...not for engagement, and not for marriage. Just the paper is required.
In the U.S., people all do this differently, but the tradition is an engagement ring (for the woman only) and then a wedding band/wedding ring for the bride and groom to put on one another's finger while saying the wedding vows.
However, no rings at all are actually required...not for engagement, and not for marriage. Just the paper is required.
I am from Asia. I see! Thank you for your explanation. I think It all depends on ourselves.
Engagement is simply a promise to marry. Engagements can be long or short. Typically it's spent planning the wedding. The engagement ring was traditionally given to the bride-to-be as collateral due to the fact that the bride and her family foot the bill for the wedding. If the groom changes his mind she can pawn the ring to help cover the expenses she has incurred.
If both of you from Asia, don't do it. Any good Asian man would not even bringing up living together before marriage. His family will look down on you even you two are married eventually.
Engagement is simply a promise to marry. Engagements can be long or short. Typically it's spent planning the wedding. The engagement ring was traditionally given to the bride-to-be as collateral due to the fact that the bride and her family foot the bill for the wedding. If the groom changes his mind she can pawn the ring to help cover the expenses she has incurred.
Yes and no...I believe the proper etiquette is to return the ring if the engagement is broken. That's probably pretty old-fashioned, though. Some states actually have laws one way or another about this - the ring may be treated as a gift and therefore the bride's property no matter what, or it may be considered a conditional gift from the groom, the condition meaning an actual marriage, which means if the marriage does not take place, the ring reverts to being the groom's property. ETA: I looked it up and opinions differ on what has until now been accepted as historical fact, but in some traditions the ring could be kept by the bride if the groom broke off the wedding as partial compensation for her damaged reputation. Otherwise the groom would generally receive the ring back.
I thought the primary intent of the engagement ring was to 1. prove to the bride's family and the bride that the groom could amass the financial means to support her and 2. take the bride off the market to interested parties.
If both of you from Asia, don't do it. Any good Asian man would not even bringing up living together before marriage. His family will look down on you even you two are married eventually.
Personally, I wouldn't care if either of our families "looked down" on us for living our own lives. But I'm not a good Asian man, thankfully. I'm American, and I'm evil!
No disrespect.
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